I am well aware of the risks, yet I am totally turned off by condoms. For me sex with condoms is not sex, but masturbation. What's the difference between putting a condom on a cock, or on a plastic dildo? For me - none.
That said, I preferred to have no sex than to risk it. I did try using condoms, but my cock became limp every time I put that damn piece of latex on, and being fucked by a condom-wearing cock felt no difference than my realistic dildo. So I stopped having sex.
Then a friend of mine suggested I fuck him bareback. I put the conditions: we wait, and get tested before we do. We were both fully neg and have been fucking bareback ever since. We're a couple now and fuck the hell out of each other regularly. No enemas, just make sure we're not full beforehand - and there are no cleanup problems. Cum in ass, and it stays there. We love it that way.
Yeah, there's still risk because we have to trust each other. But I'd rather trust my BF than a piece of latex, which can break, especially during anal sex. How many people use condoms specifically designed for anal? Not many, I deem.
What I really hate is when discussions about sex preferences entice well-meaning people to start shoving unsolicited advice down people's throats. I know they mean well, but there are other threads to do so. People will do what they want, even if it 100% harms them (like smoking). Unlike smoking, barebacking can be safe.