@MrMazda:

I bareback exclusively… I'm not particularly worried about HIV though because hey..... you can only catch it once, right?  :hehe:

Just a heads up to the people who have expressed that they are concerned with the risk of contracting HIV. It's a scientifically proven fact that having unprotected sex to completion (as a top or bottom) with a partner who is HIV+ and maintains an undetectable viral load is actually safer than engaging in any penetrative sexual activity with a partner who is HIV+ and has a high viral load, even with a condom. Believe it or not, there has yet to be so much as one confirmed case of an HIV+ individual with an undetectable viral load ever passing the virus onto another partner, despite the number of studies that have been done to attempt to quantify the risk.

So... Keep in mind that the vast majority of persons who are HIV+ are on the meds and as such, effectively maintain an undetectable viral load... Don't get me wrong though, I'm not trying to pressure anyone into anything by making this point. I believe in a person's right to choose what is right for them, and that in doing so, they should have the right to make that decision while properly armed with all the pertinent facts. All that I'm saying here is that the fear and stigma behind HIV at this day and age is pretty much unfounded. Unlike 1986 when the problem was at its all time worst, HIV is no longer something that needs to be feared. In fact, thanks to the advances in medicine in particular, the general risk of contraction at this day and age is nowhere near what it used to be back in the day. This is largely due to the fact that the majority of cases now a days within North America in particular are cases where they're on the meds and undetectable..... This is part of the reason why I bareback.

Thank you for your post, it's the first educated non judgemental full of stigma and fear response I've seen.  To further quantify what you've stated knowing the facts is key, getting yourself regularly tested is also essential so you can police your own sexual health, and can we in the gay community stop using hurtful language to describe those within our community living with hiv, it's not a death sentence, we're living healthy satisfying lives, and anyone using the term "clean" need to be read the riot act.

I totally disagree with both statements, that mindset is a huge turn off, and strikes me as totally disrepectful.  I'm not trying to rape the guy i'm playing with I'm trying to enjoy a hot time with him and others.  I treat my sex partners the way I want to be treated.  Men today have no idea how to fuck, it's like you're in a fucking porn movie and it's all rough and being treated like you're a piece of shit. There's no connection, no sense of passion, it's ugly and vulgar,  What the fuck is up with that?

There is nothing wrong with role play, as long as both parties agree beforehand the boundaries and there is also nothing wrong with the rougher side of sex if that's what all involve enjoy, but just treating everyone the same is not the way to go.  Also, if someone says don't force them to do something then you obey their wishes.