Concur. Why are gays so hung up on the idea of doing what straight people do?
There are those that came to terms with their homosexuality by completely shaping their identity around it, and creating a sense of "otherness," an us-versus-them sort of philosophy. I went through a phase like that myself, and it's definitely an important part of the pie that makes all of us up as a community.
Other people like having sex with their own gender, but don't necessarily feel the need for "otherness," though. Some people want the white picket fence, the family life, the whole Somewhere That's Green bit. It's okay to be suburban, mainstream, and gay at the same time. The beautiful cultural shift over the last few decades has allowed for more and more options for how any of us chooses to live our lives … including those who want the whole suburban thing.
While it's true that having gay marriage on the table does allow this option for more people (and I am on board with the idea of more options being a good thing), I do get a little bit concerned about how that option can be passed onto children as an obligation or as a limiting ideology. I remember growing up in blissful suburbia and living with what was basically an expectation to want my own white picket fence and dog and cute little family photos running up the staircase wall. If gay marriage had been readily available to me and I had been able to slide right into that sort of "pre-planned" future, I probably would have done so and thought nothing of it because I grew up learning that marriage is "good." Liking boys meant marriage could not be implied, so I had to think a little more deeply about what I want and whether or not marriage is actually the "good" choice or if it is simply "a" choice.
I guess I hate to be the guy that uses "indoctrination," but I feel like marriage does that. Our culture and media talk about marriage like it's some amazing thing - even in the supreme court ruling, the language was all about how marriage is the most important thing ever. We don't even give people an opportunity to reject the idea marriage, and when people manage to carve out their own path they're pegged as weird and lonely. Don't we value them, too? I think it's unfortunate that after the ruling everyone is like, "Great job, we finally did it! Let's go home!" when there is still a lot to talk about.
Gay marriage is great and I do think it's a good idea. But we are not talking about a society in which there are two choices (marriage or not-marriage) and people pick one. We are talking about a society in which there is a "good" choice (marriage) and a "bad" choice (not marriage). The "good" choice just got a whole boatload of new friends to help it shun the "bad" choice and I think that is lame.
**Also saying there are only two different choices is silly. There are LOADS of ways to live a life - I just want to see alternatives to the mainstream being given a chance as equal.