Posts made by omnimodis78

I don't know if I agree that it's harder for a bisexual to come out versus a a homosexual - although I never had to "come out" as a bisexual, I did have to settle the score with those in my life about me being gay as opposed to being bi, for the simple fact that I dated a girl for 5 years and by all outwardly appearances it was a picture-perfect relationship - so it was confusing to those around me who never suspected that I could be gay, and here I was announcing that I am gay.  I recall one specific conversation with a friend who was satisfied with my decision to come out, but still thought that maybe I was just experimenting.  He explained that it wasn't the idea of me being gay that he found odd, but rather that he always saw me as the most sexually and emotionally comfortable sort of a man, and so why would I settle for a girl if I was completely not into girls.  It took a few conversations to explain (and I think he really did get it by the end) that it wasn't a matter of how I behaved or what I did (i.e. be with a girl), but rather how I wished I could have behaved or what I really wished to do (i.e. be with a man)   So, essentially, I think that it's harder for those who are gay but by definition are viewed by others as bi (or potentially bi) because we have to almost justify our emotions and instincts.  I think if I'd have said "hey guys, I'm bi" people in my life would have agreed and understood, but telling people that I am 100% gay, that just confused them.  Does any of this make sense?  :crazy2: