Has this ever happened to you? You date someone, fall in love, but the guy is not really your type physically? I'm in my 30s and really felt I found the perfect guy to settle with, but my sexual attraction towards him is weak. He's really hot, but just not my type.
I'm confused and don't know if I should continue or break it off. We've been together for months now and everything is great except the sex. I'm afraid to break it off and then regret my mistake.
Well the question is, what do you mean by "he is just not my type".
There is a saying that friendship is love without the erotic part. Pardon my bluntness, but… If everything is great with someone, just not the sex, then why have sex with him? In that case, you may as well live with a woman, there are many wonderful women ideal to settle with.
Then again, you stated that he is "hot". Can you detail that a little, praise him, tell us how do you find hot? Is he handsome, but fat, or does he have a sexy body with an average face? Is he older than your ideal?
And maybe you should also think of what your "type" is. Is it a very strict type, like "bald guys with a face resembling my childhood crush", or did you only mean that his looks alone does not excite you very much? If your previous boyfriends were cut out for a particular fetish, and he isn't, then maybe it is only that your taste have changed.