First post ever, saw the topic and was curious what the torrent porn crowd had to say… As someone who's been HIV+ for 26 years (omg, I'm 53 now...how'd that happen?), and who's now an RN working in HIV treatment, I'm impressed with people's thoughtful and I hope honest posts (though, no offense intended, what's up with the spit out and eat toothpaste plan? if it "worked," it was probably a coincidence. I'd go for PEP (the old PREP, different and also very effective if started right away). Cuz toothpaste doesn't kill HIV and you might injure yourself or that nice HIV+ guy you just blew in all the commotion....)

Anyway...since being told in 1990 I had 2 years left at best, I somehow (good doctors, good family and friends, insurance, and some good luck) am still here and still pretty healthy. But if you can stay negative, do it. The meds aren't a cure, most have some icky side effects, you have to remember to take them...

But denying this nice HIV+ guy (in my story, he's nice) a blowjob isn't likely to be effective or enough to keep you negative.

Disclaimer: I have tons of flaws, or at least a fair share. But I am proud of these strengths: I always disclose, always use condoms for fucking (and have had to miss out on situations where that doesn't work for the other guy(s), sometimes very reluctantly, but if I made safer sex exceptions it'd get too confusing and weird for me), and know I've never given anyone HIV.

But like most guys, I have lied to get laid: "No, Kylie Minogue's great and not at all a distraction, even if you start singing along." (sorry, not that funny a person, but  hopefully you can see where I'm going) - so to the guys who would only suck dick if the HIV+ guy had an undetectable viral load, or would only blow a guy who's HIV-...think again, please. My colleagues and I spend a huge amount of time (gladly, I'm not complaining) counseling men whose partner was either unaware or untruthful, so along with a surprise serious health challenge, they also have to deal with betrayal.

Quoting my boss: "being in love is a HUGE risk factor for getting HIV." That and fear and denial are why we still have new cases. I'd rather find a new line off work; no one working in HIV wants you as a new patient...and when you get middle aged, don't worry, you'll get to see doctors and nurses plenty.

Apologies for long-windedness, thanks again for reading and if you posted or will post, thanks cuz many of you made me think - which isn't why I logged on, but is a good thing.