Grinder pics and porn for many relieve the need for physical sex as they can jerk off and fantasise over them and then get on with their lives. By sending people pictures of your ass or cock there is nothing left to find out so they can wank off and no need to meet. Personally I find dating apps mostly a waste of time and get most sex meeting people physically. Saunas offer the best option for quick sex as everyone there is there for the same purpose. If you really must use apps then "less is more", don't show your cock or ass and if you must then obscure it so its teasing. Keep your shorts on with hard on etc. Your face pics are very much like everyone elses so try to be different here too and less pics, one or two are enough. Give little and you will get back lots. Good luck

Hi Popper. Just back in and left things running all day. I'd already set ratio to 1000%. It seems its woken back up again, no idea why. Still a bit hit and miss with most not seeding by a couple are on ratios of 2.5 and one is now 6.8 which at least shows things are working. Maybe its just the torrents I've been choosing that no-one else wanted but I've always downloaded the amatuer stuff so still not convinced. Anyway it seems to be improving so thanks for your help and fingers crossed I can get back to at least 1!

Great thread and something I can relate to a lot. I see myself as a guy who has sex with guys but lives a "straight" life. I'm not into the gay scene and I only tend to hook up with other similar men. Sexually I find the more grunt like someone is the more I'm turned on. Anyway this isn't the point of my post…

About a year ago I picked up this guy online who wanted to come round and wank with me. He has a wife, kids and a girl friend. The big turn on for me was he was a greasy biker, 6 foot, big build and hairy with tatts and a beard. I'm not talking a "bear" I'm talking a real knuckle head in a biker gang, no I'm not fantasising. We met every few weeks and then one thing led to another and he we started taking turns to blow each other off, 69ing. He became obssessed with making me cum. Sex was full on but never tactile or with eye contact/ kissing etc which I thought a bit wierd.

Then, about 4 months ago I got a msg asking if i knew anyone who would fuck him whilst he sucked my cock. I'd never mentioned fucking as I know a lot of this type can't cope with it but I was more than happy to play along as he had a great hairy butt, which I'd always wanted to fuck; yes totally selfish I know. We started fucking and he loved it. I'm not into being fucked so it was always me fukcing him. He w0as totally into it begging me to fuck him for hours and even asking me to cum inside him, which I didn't and always used a condom. This went on for a few more months and all seemed great until he started to wobble. Making arrangements and not showing up, giving no response when I asked why he'd not shown then msg a few days later to hook up again etc.

I assumed it was done and as I'm not the type to hang around for anyone who doesn't turn i suggested we move on. A couple of weeks later, I started to get more msgs "Are you free, I miss your cock" etc. I said no but this just made him msg more. I stopped all contact for a month but he continuned to send msgs and started saying things like " I'm missing our time together". Now, I'm thinking wtf going on with this chap maybe theres more to this? So I asked, I'm quite up front like that. And this is the point of posting. I got the weirdest of replies back - "I don't fancy men what so ever, I only ever like women, I just need your cock now and again". I suggsted that having such a facination for cock wasn't compatible with not fancying guys? No response. Needless to say I put a stop to the meets but he still msgs me every couple of weeks with things like "how are you", I'm missing the fun we had" "I don't have sex with any oth guys but you". I challenged him again a few weeks ago as to why he keeps messaging me for sex and that if all he needed was a cock then there are plenty available so why keep pestering me?  Got the same "I'm weird I know, I'm not gay, I don't fancy men, I only want your cock though". I've now reached the point of "whatever" but got to say in all my years fucking straight or bi guys this one has me stumped. I don't have time to help sort out whatever issues he has but its a shame as it means losing such a horny fuck bud.

For all of you asking how to seduce a straight guy I'd say its pretty easy if you give them what they want and keep it discrete but as you can see from above its often loaded with baggage and not for the faint hearted! :cheesy2:

Popper. I've today reset my router again. Set a static IP and forwarded a new fixed port. Attached is a screen grab from bitorrent. All torrents are from today. You'll see some are still downloading. The one highlighted downloaded fine and went into full seeding immedietly at over 1mb up to a ratio of 0.483 it then stopped dead and has seeded nothing since. This happened to another test torrent I did ealier in the week. Stopped at 0.48? All uploads are unrestricted? My client just isn't getting any requests from the tracker?

Hi Popper yes it was me trying different ports but still nothing. All torrents are flatline not seeding at all. I tried a new one and it uploaded just over double the download then stopped and has not uploaded a kb since? I've checked ratio control in deluge is unlimted so I've no idea whats happening

I've looked into things and my port was forwarded ok and comes up on canyouseeme. I'm now running Bitorrent and Deluge at the same time. Still nothing is seeding!
here is an image from deluge. You can see theres nothing happening  :cry2:

thanks popper but this has not been my experience until now. I've always re-seeded every torrent I download and have seen the tracker upload some torrents 20 - 30 times over which is why I've got such a huge upload and was a Power User. Something has changed in the last month and now I seem to be reseeding nothing despite being connected to the tracker 24/7?

Ok, I've been a power user for many years. Currently 2.49TB uploaded. Over the last month my seeding seems to be ignored and now I have dropped to a ratio 0.950! I'm usually 1.2! As a test I've just put my own torrent up: https://www.gaytorrent.ru/details.php?returnto=%2Fmytorrents.php&id=b1169e9e7e6e105cbfbd55167df83cb42f133121da248eab
This has only seeded 2gb from me but if you look at the traffic its currently on 64gb! Please can someone who runs this site look at whats going on and fix it. Thanks.

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