@rizekc I don't remember the source, but I have his pictures saved in a folder named "Scott". He appeared in issue #5 of a magazine called "Heavy Duty" (which I'd love to see).

And if you're partnered, playing the "pronoun game" (i.e. using gender-neutral pronouns when discussing your significant other) is very tedious.  And people can often tell when someone is gay, so being closeted is delusional anyway.

On the other hand, your family can sometimes surprise you.  I grew up in a very rural area in Kentucky.  Homophobia was rampant, but when I came out my family shocked me with their acceptance.  Coming out was terrifying and not easy at all, but it is a much better way to live.