OP:
In high-school I was usually wanted to date some gay guy I met, but after my first boyfriend and I split up we stayed friends for… coming up on a decade this September.
I'm the president at my LGBT Pride club at the community college, and I have no interest in sleeping with ANY of my club members. (that's not the point of pride club, it seems inappropriate for me to be a representative of the only active LGBT organisation in my city and be sleeping with the constituents.) But they are my friends, and sometimes, better than family.
Honestly I don't go out of my way to make gay friends. Mostly because I don't care much about anyone's orientation, but also because I seemingly have less in common with the gay people I meet in passing, and have severely different communication styles. This makes having a rewarding friendship more difficult. Just off the top of my head, recently I met some gay guys that listened to a lot of pop music, and liked to go out to the clubs and dance... I don't like any of those things. They are not enjoyable to me. But I FEEL like a minority within a minority saying that.
Then again you won't see me at any gym either (maybe that's another place you can look for gay friends) IDK I'm clearly bad at this.
I've made the same experiences as you, except for the staying-friends-with-ex-BFs. And I, too, feel like a minority within a minority. Usually it's not a big deal. But if one needs to talk to someone who can understand one's "gay problems", straight friends are often just… incompatible.
OP: I met some at my university's gay pride club, but due to the lack of mutual interests and people moving to other countries, those acquaintances and friendships rarely last in my case. But that's okay, since you'll alway find someone you get warm with, in a plactonic sense :hug:.
Also, at least here in Germany, it seems that our local hacker spaces have much higher than usual share in openly gay people. I have some ideas why that might be, but I'm still not sure why.