@Tutankhaten:

many would argue an experience happier than the one being lived by someone who is not out. However, because you are not out, you are happy but know no different and so you can't truly gage your happiness vis-a-vis being out. Only those who are out can truly say they are happier than if they were not or that they were happier when they weren't out because they have experienced both states. Your current state of happiness is only relative to what you know, and as you don't know how much happier/unhappier you would be if you were out, to say you are happy in a definitive sense is somewhat self-misleading.

I am not intended to compare my happiness with someone else's happiness. I am not either intended to say I am happier than people who come out.  ^-^. Live with your choice and be happy. Come out if you think it is worth it. Every choice have consequences. No matter what it is, you can be happy if you can deal with those consequences. No gauge for sure. but, for me, happiness will arise when I love myself, respect myself as I am. No gauge but I can feel it. And I hope You are happy, no matter your choice is. No need to compare, I guess.

I live in a country where being gay is a big sin. When I was younger I told one of my sister and some of my friends that I am gay. They are good people. They accept that but they also hope that someday "I will be cured".

Now I think I don't need to tell. Like one has said, it is none of their business. I don't tell, I don't deny. It is my personal thing. People has personal things.

If coming out make this life change into the life where I can hold my boy friend in public without people starring at us, my family are welcome when my boyfriend visit them, my straight friends are OK when I kiss my boyfriend in front of them, I will do that for sure. But it won't happen. So I choose to go on my romance and my sexual life happily and personally.

hallo semuanya. senang ada bahasa melayu disini. sy dr jakarta.

I am from Jakarta, Indonesia.

I am not evangelical or catholic, I 'was' moslem and it does not accept homosexuals either. When I was in your position, I considered two options: interpret myself what are written in the holy book and keep in mind that God loves me, or convert into agnostic. Finally I choose the second option.

Avoid him until you find someone else you get infatuated. It happened to me some times.

Budhism don't care if we heterosexual or homosexual as long as you do it 'right'. so many resource about it. http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/why-buddha-was-not-anti-gay050912/#gs.Vn0R4PY is just one of them.