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Homosexuality debate rages in Barbados
Homosexuality debate rages in Barbados
Sat, December 11, 2010 - 3:30 PM
Although more than four years old, the recently released CADRES study on the attitude towards homosexuals in Barbados has been generating considerable interest.
The issue under consideration is always provocative and principal director of CADRES Peter Wickham has indicated that he is already exploring options to have it repeated to generate contemporary data. The study drew on two nation-wide surveys that were executed in 2003 and 2004 and discovered that persons largely saw homosexuality as a “male” preoccupation.
The survey used indicators to gauge attitudes and was informed by an earlier survey (2003) which indicated that there was little if any support for the decriminalisation of homosexual acts; however the 2004 survey demonstrated that this single question only told part of the story of Barbadian attitudes.
The 2004 investigation demonstrates that “negative” attitudes toward homosexuals are prevalent within a relatively small section of the Barbadian population, while the vast majority of Barbadians are either tolerant or accepting of homosexuals.
This essentially means that Barbadians have disaggregated their strong views on the retention of a legal prohibition against homosexual acts, from their attitude towards homosexuals generally, which is considerably softer.
Apart from highlighting this “gap” in the Barbadian logic, the study also helps to explain the rationale behind our attitude towards homosexuals and this seems to be located in the twin issues of fear and concern.
There is obvious concern for the homosexual who the public “fears for” or is “concerned about” and there is also a fear “of” the homosexual which could be located in that person’s apparent proclivity to be predatory, or to the extent that the homosexual could have the capacity to improperly influence societal norms.
The study revealed a major preoccupation with even the most “liberal” persons that their children and to a lesser extent their families should NOT be homosexual, while there was comparatively less concern about the other categories (like “Friends” and “Employees”).
This pattern was clearly influenced first and foremost by concern for the homosexual (“Children” and “Family”) and secondarily fear of the homosexual (Teachers and politicians).
The fact that there was generally little concern about homosexual “Friends” supports the argument that Barbadians are not instinctively homophobic but this fear is rooted in an emotional bond or power relationship.
The other major finding of this study is the identification of demographic variables that appear to influence a person’s attitude towards homosexuals.
The survey demonstrates that women are generally more comfortable with homosexuals than men and similarly young adults are more comfortable than older persons. It is interesting that the age divide here is more 18-50 as distinct from 51 and over since the separation between the views of the 18-30s and the 31-50s is not clearly reflected in their different opinions.
The impact of income and education is; however clear since persons who were better educated and who earned more money in the survey appeared more comfortable with homosexuals.
The final section of the report attempts to compare Barbadian attitudes toward homosexuals with their attitudes toward other controversial issues such as the decriminalisation of Marijuana (Ganja); the Death Penalty and Corporal Punishment of Children.
This comparison did NOT establish any statistically verifiable relationship, but it does demonstrate that Barbadians are considerably more opposed to the decriminalisation of homosexual acts than any of the other major issues engaged in the survey.
This section also supports the argument that there is some distance between the stated Barbadian position on several of these moral issues and their practices.
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I CONFESS – Full of pride for gay son
Sat, July 24, 2010 - 1:09 AM
I WANT TO share an experience I had with my son that I feel may be useful to other parents currently going through a similar situation.
My son is gay. I realised that he was not a normal boy from his pre-teen years when he would be interested in my dresses and putting on make-up. At that time we all thought it funny and saw it as clowning around. But as he got older, his interest in women’s fashions, the way he groomed himself and walked and his general mannerisms were very troubling.
Actually, they were downright disturbing and caused upheaval in the house.
First, I could not believe that my only son could become like that. The mere thought of him liking another man was revolting to me; actually, it still is, but I am more understanding now.
The next thing was the stigma of having a son who was “girlie”. People had all sorts of nasty comments to make, and I found them hard to take.
What made this situation unbearable was that I never used to mix with anyone in the neighbourhood and only spoke to a select few. So when it was apparent my son was “soft”, everyone had something nasty to say.
Of course, the less people know about you and your business the more they make up. So all sorts of wicked rumours were circulated about me and what I did and did not do to cause my son to turn out so.
Used to regret
I wouldn’t lie – in those days I used to regret that I did not get the abortion his father wanted me to get. His father, who was married, never wanted me to have a child as he said he could not afford another one. But I wanted one; for me he would be my “love child” – the proof of my devotion to the man I loved.
It was then that I started to believe that maybe my son turned out so because God was punishing me for living with a married man. Actually, I truly believed that for a long time because I thought it was retribution for not doing the right thing.
My mother, a devout Christian all her life – God rest her soul – was totally against my friendship with my married friend. So much so that she gave me an ultimatum: leave him or leave her house. I left her house and continued the relationship. I was encouraged to do so by this man, who I thought really loved me. So I rented my own place to be with him whenever he could come over.
It was only after I became pregnant about two years later that he started to pull away from me. From then it was clear he just wanted easy access to a young woman, but did not really love me.
Ashamed, I never told my mother anything. In any case, we hardly spoke in those days because she vowed never to deal with me as long as I “lived in sin”. So apart from a cousin of mine, who is my best friend up to now, I went through my pregnancy alone.
It was a terrifying experience. I was sick weeks into it and then developed back problems, which saw me taking a few weeks off work.
It was the loneliest time of my life as I did not have my mother, and the man I thought loved me had deserted me. If it wasn’t for my cousin’s help God knows how I would have made it through that period.
But I made it, raised my son the best way I knew how, steered clear of other men, and tried to rebuild a relationship with my mother. While I was seeking to live up to these commitments, my son started to show his deviant behaviour. It was really a shock for me, and I found it difficult to stomach.
As my mother was in church, I got her to get her pastor to speak with him, but that didn’t help. I got my boss and a couple of other men I respect to talk with him to see if they could find out why he was so different, but nothing helped.
As for his father, I never really saw him. All I got from him was a cheque every month-end. He did come to see his son a couple of times when he was a baby but, mainly, he had turned his back on us.
After months of pleading with him to try to get more involved with his son when he was getting older and exhibiting these traits, and after getting refusals, I determined that as long as he sent his cheque, that was it – I would raise my child by myself.
That said, though, I felt bad to see how my son was growing up and behaving more and more like a little girl. It sickened me so much, but there was nothing I could do to change him – that was who he was.
Then, one day when I went to the hospital to collect medication for my mother from the pharmacy, I went to see an AIDS counsellor and she asked me not to focus on my son’s sexuality, but on who he was as a person. And when I went through with her just what sort of person he was, I realised that my son was really a gem.
I realised that my son cooked, washed, ironed and cleaned better than me, yet he was just 17 years old – and I did not teach him anything. He learnt it from his grandmother and by watching me.
Doing well at school
He was doing well at secondary school, and unlike children whose parents had to worry about them running around getting into trouble, my son used to go to school and come back home.
He never used to lie, and was not friendly with any rowdy people. In addition, he was respectful, didn’t swear or wasn’t loud, and was very loving.
After my chat with the counsellor, I realised that all I could genuinely say that was bad about my son was that he was “girlie”.
From that day I began to appreciate him more and we talked a lot more too. And the more I talked with him the more I appreciated how well educated and focused he was. He knew what he wanted to do and was working, without me pushing him, to succeed.
Every day I began to recognise how fortunate I was to have such a sensitive child. But I found out just how blessed I was when I hurt my back and had to be home for nearly three weeks. My teenaged son took really good care of me; I did not lack for anything.
That was nearly 18 years ago. Since then he went away and studied, and is now living overseas and working in a hotel. He is doing well for himself and I’m proud of him, particularly when I look around and see how some of the boys who went school with him have turned out.
What I’m saying is that we should not let our prejudices or the fear of what people have to say blind us to the good within people.
I value my relationship with my son because he is a good person. That he is gay is no longer a big issue.
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Who is you favorite soccer star?
No. 1 Cristiano Ronaldo
No. 2 Kaka
No. 3 Fernando Torres
No. 4 Kevin Prince-Boateng
No. 5 Lionel Messi
No. 6 Didier Drogba
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