if reposted, i am sorry. Please enjoy

just from my experience:
1. if you don't feel enjoying or fun with your partner, you may feel that you have to do it to please him, so it may cause the pain
2. try to use lubs or any similar kinds,
3. ask you partner to do something passionately like more kissing, ….

i am not sure this may help, i am both but some time i would like to be given by my lover