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    • How To Get Away With Murder' Star Jack Falahee Won't Reveal His Sexuality

      How To Get Away With Murder' Star Jack Falahee Won't Reveal His Sexuality Because It 'Feels Reductive'

      Is he or isn't he? That's the one question "How To Get Away With Murder" star Jack Falahee won't answer.

      The 25-year-old actor has become a "Murder" fan favorite as openly gay character Connor Walsh, but he tells Out magazine that any discussion of his real-life sexuality "seems reductive."

      "I don’t think answering who I’m sleeping with accomplishes anything other than quenching the thirst of curiosity,” Falahee, who has shot a number of steamy, same-sex love scenes during his time on the show, said. "No matter how I answer, someone will say, ‘No, that’s not true.’"

      He went on to note, "We still live in this hetero-normative, patriarchal society that is intent on placing everything within these binaries. I really hope that — if not in my lifetime, my children’s lifetime — this won’t be a question, that we won’t need this.”

      Falahee pointed to the experience of his friend, Dan Sickles, who directed a documentary about Puerto Rico's transgender community called "Mala Mala." When Sickles and one of the film's subjects traveled to Ukraine for a film festival screening, the venue which had been scheduled to play "Mala Mala" was burned down.

      “This is all part of a greater, grander picture,” Falahee said, “and how I define my sexuality seems so trivial compared to my friend living through the fear of getting onstage and presenting his film.”

      Falahee isn't the only young actor to shrug off speculation about his sexuality in a smart, if unconventional, way. Freddie Fox, who is starring in the new British gay-themed drama "Cucumber," told The Telegraph that while "most of my life to date has been as a straight man," he didn't align himself with any particular label because "appreciation of both sexes is actually not new."

      "I hope I am the type of person who would fall in love with a person, as opposed to a sex," he said at the time.

      Meanwhile, "Fault In Our Stars" heartthrob Ansel Elgort took to Twitter to shoot down rumors about his sexuality after being tapped to play real-life gay pianist Van Cliburn in a forthcoming biopic.

      While he clarified that he was straight, he added, "If I was gay I wouldn't hide it. Being gay or straight isn't bad or good it just IS."

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    • NKOTB's Jonathan Knight To Appear With Boyfriend On 'The Amazing Race'

      Jonathan Knight of 80's boy band New Kids on the Block has never hidden his orientation, but only made a public announcement after being "outed" by former girlfriend and pop star Tiffany. Knight is continuing living openly by joining the cast of CBS' The Amazing Race next month with his boyfriend Harley Rodriguez. The singer made the announcement over Twitter:

      So happy to finally be able to officially say Harley and I will be on season 26 of the amazing race! http://t.co/R6OD30cWI6

      — Jonathan Knight (@JonathanRKnight) January 20, 2015
      The theme for the season is "all-dating couples", and in stark contrast to Knight and Rodriguez's seven-year relationship, five of the contestant pairs are appearing on the show as blind dates. The new season starts on February 25th.

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    • Sexless In Gayopolis: What’s A Guy To Do? Part 1

      Introduction

      Sex is everywhere it seems. While taboo on one hand, our society glorifies sex and capitalizes on it. There appears to be no escape from it, and our gay culture is certainly no stranger to getting caught up in its allure. You can’t thumb through a gay magazine without seeing advertisements of beefcake and sex dripping from the pages.

      A lot of literature exists on how to super-charge your sex life and boost your bedroom antics–and that’s all well and good if you have a sex life. But what about those who aren’t having sex for whatever reason and want to be? As one reader pointed out to me, this is an overlooked population whose needs have been minimally represented and addressed.

      ‘I’m a gay man who stopped having sex unintentionally after a series of experiences that span from unfulfilling to outright bad. Time has passed and unsuccessful attempts have been made to connect to new partners. I’m an attractive and outgoing guy with a lot going for myself, but resuming a healthy sex life seems futile and understanding how to overcome these blocks eludes me.’
      Being celibate when you don’t want to be can be extremely frustrating, and at times depressing, particularly when it seems like everybody else is having it, when sex is everywhere you look, and when your desires demand your recognition. While there’s no easy answer to remedying this problem, Part 1 of this article series will discuss the reasons behind ‘sexlessness’ and how the gay community can help curb this problem.

      Reasons For The Sex Void
      There are a whole host of possible reasons why we may not be having sex when we want to be. Whether a ‘dry spell’ has been temporary and short-lived or far-reaching in time span, understanding the rationale behind your impasse can help in identifying underlying problems or symptoms that could be targeted for resolution. Here are some possible origins:

      • lack of access to potential partners (eg. living in rural areas)

      • other priorities in life have become distractions, putting relationship development on ‘the back shelf’

      • lack of sexual experience or stunted sexual growth, creating insecurity and emotional blocks

      • ‘baggage’ from prior relationships getting in the way of one’s ability to form other attachments; fears of intimacy

      • history of trauma, abuse, or sexual dysfunction

      • shyness and weak social skills interfering with the ability to relate well to others, be assertive, flirt appropriately, and initiate dating or cruising rituals

      • low self-esteem and poor body image holding oneself back

      • discomfort with being gay, sexual identity struggles, and internalized homophobia

      • too much emphasis on one’s being ‘sexless’, causing spirals of negative thinking that could affect one’s mood and outlook; others could detect this and distance themselves because of the signals you may be unconsciously projecting

      • religious reasons, family expectations, medical issues, being handicapped

      As one can see, these individual-oriented dynamics could be culprits to the lack of a sex life, and there could be many others. It is not, however, always going to be attributable to anything you are or aren’t doing. Part of the problem could also be victimization as a result of society’s definition of what beauty and attraction means. For example, if you don’t ‘fit in’ with gay culture’s standards of what’s viewed as desirable (young, physically fit, well-endowed, etc.), you may be made to feel alienated and rejected from the sexual pool (if you let it!).

      There is both individual and societal responsibility for this dilemma. Since impacting social change is a long and arduous process, try to examine the role you may be playing in your difficulties to begin trouble-shooting those areas. This may expedite your accomplishing your goals.

      Problem Or Symptom?

      Exercise: Take out a piece of paper and brainstorm a list of all the possible reasons that you may be cut-off from a sexual life. Once finished, go back over your list and after each item, indicate whether this reason is something you have control over or if you lack control or power over it. Remember we only have control over our own behavior and choices, not others’. Your answers to this will help streamline your efforts as you now problem-solve potential strategies for overcoming your hurdles. Channel your energies into the things you do have control over to make the most impact. Those things beyond your control will need to be accepted as you learn to surrender, ‘let go’, and adjust to the reality.

      As you examine your list, what did you learn about yourself? Are the reasons you named reflective of the problem itself or are they telling you that they’re a symptom of a larger more underlying issue that needs to be addressed. Until that issue is resolved or those needs are met, a celibate lifestyle will likely continue because of some form of self-sabotage. Could it be that it’s not really about sex at all, and it has more to do with intimacy fears, difficulties attaching with people, social skill deficits, and not being in relationship with someone? What hurts? What’s missing in your life? Get a good handle on this before moving forward and take a realistic appraisal of what, if anything, may be holding you back.

      What The Gay Community Can Do

      • Reduce the sexualization that goes along with gay media, film, and advertising. Capitalize on other strengths that being gay means. We are multi-dimensional! So much stock should not be placed on our looks, bodies, and sexuality.

      • Broaden the scope of what desirability is. Break out of traditional models that define attractiveness by shallow, superficial, physical characteristics that objectify people. Substance and emotional depth can be the ultimate turn-on.

      • Be kinder to our gay brothers and sisters. It’s hard enough being gay in a homophobic society to then be rejected and mistreated in our own community. Fostering closer bonds with each other will help reduce the sense of isolation and bridge more connection and relationships.

      We should not be limited in how we define ‘sexy.’ One of the great things about the gay community is that we are diverse. If your sex life is hampered by distorted beliefs that you don’t ‘measure up’ to the gay standard of attractiveness, just remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and there are many subgroups in our community that value all ‘types’. And being labeled an ‘Adonis-type’ isn’t always all it’s cracked up to be either; sometimes it can be a deterrent to those who feel too threatened or intimidated to get close to him or he becomes viewed solely as a sex object and can struggle with finding true intimacy outside of the sexual act itself. We all have our challenges and if we work together collectively and develop more empathy and respect for one another, great things can happen.

      Conclusion
      In Part 2, specific strategies will be offered for you as an individual in coping with unwanted celibacy and how to breed more connection with others to improve your sexual opportunities and chances for intimacy. Just remember that you are not alone in this predicament and there is nothing abnormal or defective about it. We all have periods of sexual drought at some points in our lives and we can still be happy and fulfilled. Begin by managing your frustrations in positive ways and start the process of identifying potential solutions to your items on your brainstorming list.

      (2015-01-21) MrMazda - EDIT: Corrected list tags in lower portion of this post.

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    • Can There Be Two Tops in a Relationship?

      Can There Be Two Tops in a Relationship?

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    • Opening of WeHo's First Gay County Western Saloon

      Out Country Star Billy Gilman to Be Honored at Opening of WeHo's First Gay Country-Western 'Saloon'

      Country singer Billy Gilman, who came out back in November and was featured on our "85 Most Powerful Comings Outs of 2014" list, is set to be honored later this month at the opening of Flaming Saddles Saloon, West Hollywood's first country-western themed bar.

      SaddlesCo-owners Jacqui Squatriglia and Chris Barnes, who also own the Flaming Saddles Saloon location in Hell's Kitchen, will be opening the 6,000 square feet saloon at the corner of Santa Monica Boulevard and Larrabee.

      Said Barnes:

      “Country-western music has historically been the soundtrack to people’s lives and has always had a huge LGBT fan base, as evidenced by watching our patrons mouthing the words to their favorite country tunes while bartenders are busy kicking up their heels atop the bar.”

      Gilman will be joined on opening night by West Hollywood Mayor John D’Amico, who will present a City proclamation to commemorate the event. Dancing bartenders will also be included in the celebration, which will benefit the work of the Los Angeles LGBT Center.

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    • Colin Farrell: My Brother Suffered 'Absolute Shameful Cruelty'

      Colin Farrell: My Brother Suffered 'Absolute Shameful Cruelty' Because of Anti-gay Hate

      Colin Farrell is to appear on Irish state broadcaster RTE this evening to discuss the issue of same-sex marriage, reports The Journal.

      Farrell’s brother Eamon (above left) married his partner Stephen Mannion in Canada.

      In a pre-recorded section to be aired tonight on Claire Byrne Live, the actor - who has long been a supporter of gay rights and same-sex marriage - says:

      “I remember [my brother] coming home with blood on his shirt, and he got plenty of beatings and he got just called names continuously…so he had a very, very, very tough time, a lot of cruelty, like real, absolute shameful cruelty that was placed upon him.

      “To see [Eamon and Stephen] every day live their lives as a happily married couple is an amazing thing.

      “To think that they had to leave their own country to do that is sad and disappointing and just grossly unfair I feel.

      “It’s too easy for heterosexuals to be parents, if you want the truth. It’s too easy. There are too many of us who find it too easy to have a kid.

      “Too many parents around the world don’t parent their kids, because it was a five minute thing…and there it is. We’re talking about Irish society being the best version in any referendum, divorce, same sex marriage, being the best version of ourselves that we can be.

      “I carry Ireland with me everywhere I go, and I love my country deeply.

      “This is my coming out of the closet as it were publicly and saying that I support this vote with every fibre of my being.”

      The decision by Irish health minister Leo Varadkar to come out yesterday has been regarded by many as a boon to the “yes” campaign in a referendum this May on same-sex marriage.

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    • London Transit Authorities Reject Sexy Poster For AIDS Play 'My Night With Reg'

      :cheesy2: :cheesy2: :cheesy2:

      My Night With Reg is a classic AIDS-themed comedy production by Kevin Elyot that has been making the rounds since 1994. For the 20th anniversary a new poster was produced, featuring actor Lewis Reeve's hanging buns, partially obscured by David Bowie's Ziggy Stardust album. But while the ad met London's advertising restriction standards, Transport for London - which runs the underground - deemed it too racy and banned it from being displayed.

      The Evening Standard got a statement from a TfL press officer, confirming "if it has been rejected it means that it doesn't meet the guidance that we have set." The Standard noted that Justin Bieber's photoshopped bulge evidently does meet the guidance of the TfL.

      The play's revival began Saturday and officially opens this Friday at the Apollo Theater and is scheduled to run through April 11th.

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    • Stephen Fry's Marriage To Elliot Spencer Draws Homophobic Backlash Over Age Gap

      Last week Stephen Fry, a 57 year old British comedian and television personality, married Elliot Spencer, a fellow comedian known for being 30 years Fry's junior. From the jump neither Fry nor Spencer made much of an effort to conceal the nature of their relationship from the public, and the pair quickly made headlines for their significant age gap.

      “This was the week celebrities and politicians from all over the free world linked arms in defence of a Paris magazine’s right to give gratuitous offence to Muslims,” wrote Tom Utley for The Daily Mail. “OK, nobody is going to shoot me. But how many of them, I wonder, would show the same solidarity with a paper that showed similar disrespect for Mr Fry’s nuptial arrangements?”

      In Utley’s piece, he openly admits to having reservations about Fry and Spencer’s relationship. Primary among his concerns is the couple’s significant age differential, and the implicit disparity between the men in terms of their ability to make long-lasting decisions involving their romantic lives.

      To their credit, Fry’s account of his newlywed status to Spencer is anything but difficult. The couple have purportedly received the blessings of the Clooneys, J.K Rowling, and David Cameron. As Utley’s piece goes on, however, the more homophobic elements of his argument begin to surface.

      “I entreat you not to misunderstand me, “ he begins. “It would break my heart if any son of mine felt I was such a bigot that he couldn’t tell me he was gay, or thought that I’d love him any the less for it. I’d also like it on record that I came round long ago to civil partnerships, and I’m a little ashamed of my initial opposition to them.”

      “But as I understand marriage, it’s an institution for child-rearing and mutual support between the sexes, which means the real thing can only be between a man and a woman….I strongly suspect, too, that some of my other objections to the Fry-Spencer match will have occurred to many, if not most, parents of 27-year-olds.”

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    • Gay Couple, Second to Marry in Florida,

      Newlyweds Todd and Jeff Delmay, who were the second couple to marry in Florida earier this month after Judge Sarah Zabel lifted the stay on her same-sex marriage ruling, will attend tonight's State of the Union address as guests of Congresswoman Debbie Wasserman Schultz, Equality Florida reports.

      The Delmays (above, with son Blake), who live in Hollywood, were one of six same-sex couples in the case which successfully challenged the state's gay marriage ban. They have been together for 14 years.

      Said Wasserman Schulz: “It is my distinct honor to invite my constituents Todd and Jeff to join me for the President’s State of the Union address at the Capitol…Their bold efforts, along with Equality Florida and the other plaintiff couples, helped turn the page on the legal discrimination of the past and start a new chapter in Florida’s history. I’m looking forward to celebrating their marriage, and highlighting the ongoing effort to achieve equality for all, next week in Washington.”

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    • FOX News' Bret Baier: I Pulled Out of Anti-Gay Catholic Conference Because It Do

      As we've been reporting, the rabidly anti-gay Catholic group Legatus found itself at the center of a controversy after activist and Good As You blogger Jeremy Hooper highlighted the extreme and disturbing views held by the organization including labeling same-sex attraction as a disorder and recommending conversion therapy. As a result, three individuals slated to headline the group's annual conference, actor Gary Sinise, Fox News anchor Bret Baier and MoltonCoors Chair Pete Coors all pulled out of the event.

      At the time of Baiers' withdrawal, Fox News released a statement saying Baier "was unaware" of anti-gay articles published by Legatus' magazine or "the controversy surrounding them.”

      Now, in an email addressed to hatemonger Peter La Barbera of Americans for the Truth About Homosexuality, Baier confirms that while Fox did ask him to pull out of the event, he also backed out due to his own views on sexual orientation and faith, views that for Baier are diametrically opposed to Legatus':

      I pulled out of the speech at Fox’s request — because of the controversy surrounding some of these articles and editorials that have been published in the Legatus magazine […]

      I am a lifelong mass attending Catholic – I’m a lector at my parish. I consider myself to be in line with my Church on most things. This isn’t about me.. but, describing homosexuality as a ‘disorder’ and talking about ways to ‘cure’ people from it – does not seem to line up with the loving, accepting Church that I know. Nor does it match up with how Pope Francis has talked about the issue recently.

      I couldn’t speak because of that – I don’t wish the group any harm, but after Gary Sinise pulled out.. as a newsman, Fox agreed that I could not be surrounded by that controversy… as much as I would have loved to have talked about my book, my faith, and my son’s battle with congenital heart disease.

      That is the truth.

      I hope you and others can understand. If not.. I wish you well with your viewing.

      Peter LaBarbera meanwhile was none too pleased with Baier's response, blasting Fox News for "directly [financing] and [sponsoring] pro-”gay” media events that promote homosexual behavior and ideology–including same-sex 'marriage'–condemned by the Catholic Church."

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