Then stop setting up hookups and start setting up dates!

Maybe I'm weird but I'm pretty much versatile. Where my preference comes is I tend to be more submissive, and it's rarer to find a dominant bottom than a dominant top.

As a black man (particularly into bears) I've gotten really used to people telling me they're not into black guys (and occasionally being really into me just because I'm black).

I'll say I've come to terms with it.  I don't consider it racist, but I do consider it shallow. To me it's the same thing as a straight guy saying "I'm only into blondes with big boobs." It's not something someone says if they're looking for a meaningful relationship or really connect with someone. It's a purely physical thing. It's not until someone starts making assumptions about the person I am because of my race that it starts entering the racist territory.

I even find it a bit of a turn off is someone states they have a big thing for black guys because that makes me question if they're into me just because of my race.

For myself I know that sexually I have a bit of a preference for white guys, I can't deny that, but in looking for a relationship and a partner it really doesn't matter. It's connecting with the person that's important to me.