Posts made by ak1986

I distinctly remember the first time I was in Rome seeing a couple kissing passionately, and it seemed rather sweet, like all those ideas about Italy and romance were true.  This news is deeply depressing.  Not only should they be released, but an apology should be made.

I know what you're saying.  I think there are a lot of people who find it easier to come out as bi then slip into a gay lifestyle.  I also think that some of these people are bi, they just ultimately find it easier being gay.  I am completely honest with myself when it comes to sexuality, and I never gave anyone the idea that I'd settle down with a woman or anything; heck I walk about with a bag that says 'BAN MARRIAGE' on it.  I think what I'm trying to say here is that I wish more bi guys were honest with themselves.  I can understand why they wouldn't be, cause I've had just as much shit about my sexuality, or probably more, from gay guys than straight ones.  I'm happy to identify myself as queer, as long as it doesn't stop me sleeping with ladies if I so wish.  I agree completely with your final sentiment.

What is difficult here is the relative lack of openly bisexual people.  Most people I know who are sexually adventurous would or have had sex with both genders, but they choose a side, and they choose to identify themselves as either straight or gay cause it's a lot easier with stereotypes about bisexual guys (not so much girls) like those ones.  I am not an exception.  Sex is very important I agree, but sex is not just about genitals is what I'm saying.  I don't think they define or even have a big say in one's sexuality.  The gender divide is mostly fictitious and societal.  There are a lot more bisexual people than openly bisexual people, believe me.  If a guy can live as straight then it's easier.  If a guy can live as gay in some ways that's easier too.  If the guy who posted the original message did fall in love with a guy and settle down, by your logic, why wouldn't he go out and cheat because he would be craving sex with a girl?  You seem to be talkin about very specific types of bisexuals.  I hate the word bisexual.  Why would anyone choose never to experience sex with a gender, and thus cut off the people they are attracted to by 50%?  Other than them being uncomfortable about words like queer and bisexual?

I think society has something to do with it, I kinda almost felt the same way till I fell in love with a guy, and i was openminded enough to let that happen.  I'd been in love with women before.  I enjoy being bi.  The guy writing above me says something similar but is just wrong; if you are bi you are no more likely to miss sex with guys if you settle down with a woman than vice versa.  I have had serious relationships with both and been completely a) open about my bisexuality and b) content with experiencing sex only with this person.  Sexuality does not start and stop at genitals and I think I know my own sexuality better than people who have not explored sex with both genders.  The 'no matter how butch the chick is' comment is just condescending.