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      bob85 last edited by

      I’m not. I never know how associates will react, even though our company has anti-discrimination policies for LGBT people. When asked if I have a girlfriend, I simply say “no” and leave it at that… I don’t correct them. I don’t think they are anti-LGBT, but you never know (especially in the workplace). Maybe one day I will...

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        motri last edited by

        sometimes. i usually see if the people at work are prejudiced or any sort of that feeling. if not and i like them i slip in a casual comment during convo

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          marsram08 last edited by

          I've given it out as "It depends on the situation/bisexual". My workplace has a strict no-discrimination rule and we are all very informal inside the office during work hours, so people with tats just bare it all, outright lesbians sport boyish haircuts and I even saw a crossdressing gay man (he wears a gown or a muumuu most days).

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            NickJakobs last edited by

            i am out at work yeah. It dosent bother me. Most of my co workers are really nice and dont really care about it. Sure there will always be that one that needs to act all weird and stresses out but fuck that. Thats a his problem not a my problem .

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              WarlockofHot last edited by

              No I'm not. The topic hasn't come up.

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                babar3000 last edited by

                At the moment, I'm not working for any one. I use to have problems to reveal my sexual condition, most in work

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                  meowmeowmix last edited by

                  Yes, I am. I'm lucky to be at an org that emphasizes diversity (of all sorts), and they do a good job of making it work in practice.

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                    monty last edited by

                    No, it is nobody's business at the workplace anyway.

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                      fezobe last edited by

                      Nope. That's why it's called private life. Besides, nobody cared to ask me about my mate, gay or not, in these years, which is fine to me.

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                        marsram08 last edited by

                        I did casually throw it out at work that I was bi. But I am lucky to be in a workplace which has a strict anti-discrimination rule. Race, Gender, preferences like tattoos are not a problem in my workplace.

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                          trukr last edited by

                          I’m not out completely, only to my bosses and some friends I’ve made. Everyone else can think what they want. When someone seems to really want to be my friend, and the feeling is mutual, I tell them about myself and my BF. That’s after really getting to know them fairly well. So far that’s been working out great. Other people; I just say "no" if someone asks if I’m married or have a girlfriend and leave it at that when it’s someone I don’t know well enough or care for.

                          @motri:

                          sometimes. i usually see if the people at work are prejudiced or any sort of that feeling. if not and i like them i slip in a casual comment during convo

                          I used to do that but quickly learned again that I’m not a mind reader. People will surprise you. I’ve made some great friends out of people I thought that it wouldn’t go well if I said something. I told them anyhow because they seemed to really like me and we’d talk a lot, but also because I don’t like wasting my time talking to people too much if they’re not going to be cool with me being gay, and don’t want to waste their time either. First I have to care enough to tell them. If it doesn't go well, that's great too, now I'm not wasting my time talking to an asshole. Surprisingly tho, that hasn't happened yet and I've told 9 people.

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                            motri last edited by

                            @motri:

                            sometimes. i usually see if the people at work are prejudiced or any sort of that feeling. if not and i like them i slip in a casual comment during convo

                            I used to do that but quickly learned again that I’m not a mind reader. People will surprise you. I’ve made some great friends out of people I thought that it wouldn’t go well if I said something. I told them anyhow because they seemed to really like me and we’d talk a lot, but also because I don’t like wasting my time talking to people too much if they’re not going to be cool with me being gay, and don’t want to waste their time either. First I have to care enough to tell them. If it doesn't go well, that's great too, now I'm not wasting my time talking to an asshole. Surprisingly tho, that hasn't happened yet and I've told 9 people.

                            oh cool. good that it works for you; for me it hasn't. so yes people will surprise you. a lot of the people i've come out too the more accepting were the women, most of the time, while the men were simply tolerant at best. No surprise there since my country isn't exactly well known for being accepting of the lgbt and is at it's core at most tolerant.

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                              jukester last edited by

                              not out

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                                trukr last edited by

                                @motri:

                                @motri:

                                sometimes. i usually see if the people at work are prejudiced or any sort of that feeling. if not and i like them i slip in a casual comment during convo

                                I used to do that but quickly learned again that I’m not a mind reader. People will surprise you. I’ve made some great friends out of people I thought that it wouldn’t go well if I said something. I told them anyhow because they seemed to really like me and we’d talk a lot, but also because I don’t like wasting my time talking to people too much if they’re not going to be cool with me being gay, and don’t want to waste their time either. First I have to care enough to tell them. If it doesn't go well, that's great too, now I'm not wasting my time talking to an asshole. Surprisingly tho, that hasn't happened yet and I've told 9 people.

                                oh cool. good that it works for you; for me it hasn't. so yes people will surprise you. a lot of the people i've come out too the more accepting were the women, most of the time, while the men were simply tolerant at best. No surprise there since my country isn't exactly well known for being accepting of the lgbt and is at it's core at most tolerant.

                                I'm sorry to hear that. Hope things get better in your country! I guess I'm lucky to be born and raised in California, US.

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                                  Kipowen last edited by

                                  where in CA? SF seems to be the most liberated .. of course it is where the movie Milk is based

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                                    coolparty123 last edited by

                                    Yes

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                                      eden2999 last edited by

                                      I choose not to talk about my private life at work but if certain colleagues that I feel comfortable with were to ask, I would not hesitate to tell them.

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                                        Phanj20 last edited by

                                        For me, I've been lucky to not be discriminated against for being gay. My attitude isn't of "coming out," but being married, it only really comes out in general conversation. Whether or not you know I'm gay, I'm gay. Unless you're interested, you really shouldn't care either way. I usually get some surprised looks of a mixed bag of "I didn't know you were gay" or "I didn't know you were out," I give them a confused look and say, "Duh," we laugh, and move on.

                                        My previous job was in group homes and my current job is at a organization which is huge in the LGBT+ community, so it was almost assumed I my orientation wasn't straight.

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                                          andyrec last edited by

                                          @meowmeowmix:

                                          Yes, I am. I'm lucky to be at an org that emphasizes diversity (of all sorts), and they do a good job of making it work in practice.

                                          Like me. I am part of the company's LGBT+ ERG.  😄

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                                            lvkewlkid last edited by

                                            i'm out, but i also live in a place that is pretty welcoming, they even told me in the interview they prefer gays in our workplace lol

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