My lover wants to share me…
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.. but I'm not ready or willing…
That just about sums it up
Should I do this just to please him?
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if you don't like it, i would not do it….. your lover has to respect this! if he's not, he didn't love you at all...
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Hmm…in my opinion, if you are in an open relationship, well that's fine and adds a bit of fun and xcitment to the affair, but if you are not in an open relationship and do not have 3sums or more with each other, then personally, give it a miss and perhaps find yourself a new boyfriend?
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Since you're not ready or willing, that's the end of the discussion.
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.. but I'm not ready or willing…
That just about sums it up
Should I do this just to please him?
What do you mean by share? A threesome? I think he needs to explain why that would be a turn on for him, and why he thinks it would be a turn on for you. And you need to explain to him why you think the situation is unappealing. Hopefully you come to an agreement one way or the other, but even if not, you will better understand each other.
You say you are "not ready or willing." But those are two different things: 'not willing' says no never, 'not ready' says not now but later. And if you are 'not ready', what would make you ready?
Sex is always bad when one (or more) of the people involved are not 100% into it. And when someone is really nervous it can be down right funny, or really, really sad.
The situation sounds emotionally charged between you and your lover on this issue. Just remember that emotions are always real. You experience them so they are real. They may or may not be based on false beliefs. Emotions can be stated, but they should never be up for discussion. If you need to discuss anything it needs to be the beliefs.
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Since you aren't in to it, then don't.
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My husband is the same way, he likes to "watch me work". Says I am amazing cock sucker and it just turns him on so much as he sits in the corner. If I am in the mood, I sometimes do it. But only if I want to do it as well. That part is key. If you are not comfortable about the idea or not interested, make it clear.
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you should never ever ever do something you dont feel like just to please someone else, whether is your lover, boss, family, friend
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I agree, compromise is important in a relationship, but sex is something that really should not be done in a way any of the participants is not comfortable with, if you don't want to do it you should not do it, if you only feel like you're not ready, but think you might enjoy it when you are, then it's sensible to give steps towards getting you there, but ONLY if you really want to.
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If you arent comfortable dont do it. You can regret late on.
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I would never do that…
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Pretty solid consensus, which I hope you take seriously. Emotions are, by definition, not rational, so no need to attempt to defend
them rationally. If yr not interested, yr not interested. Period.Interesting that you are not, by yourself, sufficient for his erotic satisfaction. Is he playing the field and wants you to join in? Wants
your permission/approval? If playing without yr permission/approval, is he putting your health/life at risk from dishonesty?Does he have any particular third person in mind? Who would get to choose?
