Am I Addicted to Porn? Is That A Problem?
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HEY YALL
I think I'm addicted to porn..
Not surprising on this site I guess but, I think its effecting my relationship.. sexually.. It seems as though I like porn more than having actual sex with my boyfriend.
I just LOVE porn, and I'm so glad I finally have a place where I can enjoy porn in a community, and share, and enjoy as well! But is porn a problem? I watch porn most morning til noon when i have to work.. when im not working im uplaoding / watching porn I jerk like 5 times a day.. I think im starting to be sexually un attracted to my bf .. which i feel bad about but.. i cant help enjoying porn.. ANY suggestions welcomed!
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Everything "too much" is bad.
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If it is affecting your relationships, then yes, you are addicted to it. Take a break from porn and focus on your boyfriend. Everything in moderation.
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Cut down a little, it can be bad for you.
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I'm not sure how clinically correct this is, but a common definition of addiction is an action or thing that must be indulged in that starts to affect the normal operations of daily life. While it sounds like it isn't affecting most of your daily life (work, finances, housework, personal hygene (sp?), etc) it does sound like it's affecting your love life, either as an impediment to having a good relationship, or as a sign that your current relationship isn't working for you.
Either way, find yourself a good gay or gay-friendly therapist who specializes in relationships and/or sex addiciton and talk to him/her. You may get some valuable insight into what's going on in your sex/love life, and perhaps decide for yourself if you have a problem.
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I have the same, not 5 times a day, but since my late teens (20yrs ago) I have been trying to stop watching porn because I feel I cant not watch it. I usually watch and jerk off in the evening. It's always such a rush of adrenalin in my brain to do it.
Over the years this has negatively affected my sex life. In my longest relationship I also had the feeling that real sex with my bf was more mundane and I was craving the porn images during sex. I've been single for several years now, mostly watching porn to get off. When I have real sex now I can hardly come with the guy because I'm so used to getting off with porn images. Sad, I hate it. To me this is an addiction, I dont care what the clinical definitions are, but if I've had the feeling for decades that I cant stop this behavior despite its negative effects then that's an addiction to me.
Being in this porn loop also changed things in the brain, I read an article about this, it's almost like a drug and the brain gets used to this type of stimulation. Sex becomes more a mental stimulation and looses the physical connection.
Google "porn consequences brain" or start here: http://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/02/28/hypofrontality/
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Sooner or later you will get bored with it. I was addicted to it before, but now I lose interest in it.
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If it has any impact on your sex life then yes
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How old are you? If you're older, porn is sometimes easier to get an orgasm from because you're in full control of yourself. It sounds like you're younger though. So I'd say that since it's bothering you enough here to bring it up and ask if it's a problem, then it most likely IS a problem.
People can get addicted to porn. When you orgasm, your body releases hormones and chemicals, and they have an effect on the brain. This can be addicting. Also, our brains and nervous system is such that certain thought patterns and neural pathways get strengthened with use. It's like a musician learning to play the guitar. By constantly doing the same action over and over, the neural pathways get strengthened and it's easier to trigger them with less conscious thought. Certain ways of thinking act the same way. If you keep thinking in certain ways, you reinforce that type of thinking in your brain by strengthening those pathways. If you keep watching porn, you get into that habit and your brain keeps naturally going towards it.
I suggest forcing yourself to take a break from porn. Or maybe start by not masturbating. Look at porn, but don't masturbate. Then get together with your boyfriend and have a go at it. Try going for a couple days without porn (or masturbating) and try to stick to it. If you want to be more intimate with your boyfriend, think of things that you'd like to try that may be different and exciting and then bring it up with him. Order some toys maybe and have him use them on you. Maybe sometimes even watch porn together.
You have a boyfriend, and you both like sex, so be open with him about it and look for ways to make it more exciting for both of you.
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I'm addicted to porn also and wish that I could get bored with it. I stop smoking cold turkey, but it didn't work with porn
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I'd say talking about it with your partner, and then possibly with a therapist, would be the best places to start. Make sure the partner knows it's an addiction to porn, not disinterest in him. Then you can work on it together.
One other thing you might try, though, is watching porn with the partner, and playing together while watching it. That way, you can start associating the thrill, pleasure, etc. that you currently get from the porn, with the experience of having sex with him. With luck, maybe you can slowly start phasing out the porn after that, until you find a healthy balance that works for both of you.
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I think when someone needs to jack off 5 times a day that could be a problem, but if you jack off once a day off of porn then it is normal. You are just filling the gaps ;D
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