Is it OK to comment on people's weight and discuss it?
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Some might think that the answer to this queation is positive as long as their case is not discussed..
How would you answer this question and why?
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Today people are pussies and won't do it.
I've a friend, Melinda, she's Mauri and a very big girl – 250KG. At work people alluded to weight in private, made snyde remarks. You could see people look at her from the corners of their eyes. She was the elephant in the room, so to speak.
Me, I said straight up, "Gurl, you fat. You needz to loze wait. Let's do diet 2gether".
She was my friend and this is my personality, I don't lie. I'm not mean. I didn't say it to shame her but to help her and thankfully she's knows this and was never offended. She and I went on the Atkins Diet (though I didn't need it). She gave up after a few weeks and I went on to reduce down to 5% body fat.
She's still a dear friend today, heffer size but that's okay. She loves food and doesn't want to lose weight.
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if you're not an asshole, than you probably have a sense for that topic being called for discussion or not.
sometimes it's extremely wrong, sometimes there's (friendly) space for it.
i've been listening my whole life the "omg u so skinny!" mantra, from my first steps, till today as i meet all kinds of patriarchal gay idiots with the proverbial "never enough of a real man" complex.
i've worked out as long as i could as a result of a social pressure, got seriously injured and now working out for me is over.
must say, people made me really sensitive about that topic.
no, i don't have an issue with my looks. i don't care how i look for myself.
it really is that "the others" made that an issue, as some psychologist said, "it's always the others that kill the suicidal ones".
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if you're not an asshole, than you probably have a sense for that topic being called for discussion or not.
sometimes it's extremely wrong, sometimes there's (friendly) space for it.
i've been listening my whole life the "omg u so skinny!" mantra, from my first steps, till today as i meet all kinds of patriarchal gay idiots with the proverbial "never enough of a real man" complex.
i've worked out as long as i could as a result of a social pressure, got seriously injured and now working out for me is over.
must say, people made me really sensitive about that topic.
no, i don't have an issue with my looks. i don't care how i look for myself.
it really is that "the others" made that an issue, as some psychologist said, "it's always the others that kill the suicidal ones".
You have clear thoughts for you.. :love: