Erection issue during sex

[hunkyboy]

i have serious issue that i cant get erect during sex or i get erect barely ever and i have come only twice during sex in my 20 years of life i have gone to doctor and he said that your body is perfectly fine and you can have almost everyday ejaculation with no problem so i always have to ejaculate after sex but i wish to have an orgasm my doctor said you are just too overstressed during sex so you cant get erect properly does anyone have any advice what should i do? im a full bottom so i have never been a top but i like to try it at least once i think every male should have at least the experience. thanks

[dist]

I never stayed hard when I bottom. It's the pain of getting fucked in the ass that takes away my erection. Otherwise, I have no problem staying hard, but I do have problems cuming, at least with guys I don't know very well.

[koolqee]

I've gone through similar experience but maybe not as severe. At the start of sex, I get so hard and leak precum like crazy from getting turned but after a while, it just goes away and I have trouble maintaining my erection.

I think the problem is all about the mindset. If I feel stressed or worried, I lose my erection immediately. Sometimes I worry when I can't feel much sensation and get stressed over bad hygiene, whether the other person is feeling good etc.

A solution to this could be to just let yourself go. Don't sweat over the small stuff and just try and enjoy it! It might not be easy because it's all about the mind power but I guess practice makes perfect. Also, I think it helps when you have sex with someone that you trust and feel attracted. There's barely any chemistry with random one night stands.

I hope this can resolve your situation! Let me know if it works out. Happy humping  :hug2:

[cwamoon]

I've actually been having this issue myself, and after speaking with a few of my friends in the escorting business, have been trying out a few things.

My health is very good too; I'm fit, go to the gym 5-6 days a week, etc. Hormone levels are great at age of 24.
Despite what my doctor said too - that it's mental and psychological, I have to agree with what DIST is saying.

I will be very hard leaking buckets of pre-cum, and the moment 'pain' is involved, the boner dies.

I'm a small guy: 5' 5", Asian, 130Lbs. Living in the US, taking those dicks with this small body can be hard.. And I'm always super tight.
So apparently, I have to stretch myself out. It certainly has gotten a bit better, once I started learning how to properly prep myself to try to ease myself into it.

I discovered that being on top gives me more control on the pace, then learned to tease the top in the process so that it's not awkward.
I actually use a few butt-plugs to give my hole a pre-stretch the night before sex…

Apparently the goal is to have sex so regularly that I will be stretched out enough that I won't feel pain.
Not sure how to get there though.

Once tried sleeping with a butt-plug in. Horrible mistake. The lube was dried up by the morning obviously, and my hole was so tight and stressed that taking it out was one of the worst things I've had to do...  :blownose:

So. Apparently. It's about dilating your hole. There are sex toys out for that... I just lost my patience and said fuck it.