How did you find older partner?
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Anyone want to share their story how they found older partner?
I am 25 years old male and only older men (50+) attract me, classic calm chubby grandpa look.. Cant explain why I like only old men, but not my age or even 10 years older than me.. I was never in relationship like that, but I desire it the most. just dont know how/where to look for thst type of guys..Best regards!
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First, congratulations for using Linux.
Second, check out silverdaddies.com. I have met a lot of guys there over the years. If you are from Europe, gayroyal.com is good as well.
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I think its not a deal. White daddies many of them are into younger. 25y is a perfect age. I think silverdaddies.com is the best dating site for daddies and "sons".
But im here just to warn you NEVER FORGET of SAFE SEX and put in to your head one word "HIV"
(P/S: HIV is not only one dangerous thing which scares you. You will be surprised when you google about sexual diseases. You can get one too right now even after first sex… remember.) Be careful and good luck to you, wish you the best. -
In my experience, most daddies are not too hung up on age. There are some who want boyish looks, but I think they are a minority to be honest. Many are wary of young guys who will exploit them, or are just not interested in the immaturity/drama. Look at the age preferences of most guys on SilverDaddies. The majority are not seeking boys.
EDIT: Yes, be careful of diseases. HIV is obviously awful, but things such as genital warts and herpes are no picnic either, and have no cure. To make matters worse, there may be not outward signs. There is really no such thing as "safe sex," particularly when multiple partners are involved.
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What kind of partner?
For sex? : Just go to any daddy/son gay hookup site or go to a gay sex club and mess with older guys. I doubt they will reject or refuse you. If they do, they are just assholes and just ignore them. The only bad thing is the danger factor in this and you won't see these types of guys after you have sex.
For relationships? : This is a lot harder and difficult and I don't want to give false hopes or play with your emotions like that.
In general, it's simple to find a sex partner and Mr. Right now, instead of Mr. Right. However, it's difficult for gay men to find relationships and a soul mate.
For relationships and life partners, many older men prefer older guys, like many active muscle guys prefer the same. But that doesn't mean they won't keep their options open.
That's what I want for you to do.
My best advice is for you to just network with all types of men and have your preference for older men in the back of your mind still but still understand that gay relationship partners are not easy to come across. You might find a guy your own age give or take you like you never know.
I like and have a preference for older guys as well. I also like men period. So. I hope this helps you.
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I am an older guy who has been looking for a relationship with a younger man for decades now.
I've generally liked men in their mid-20s to mid-30s. Part of it is physical, but a lot more in personality-wise. I'm a major nerd – comics, video games, books, science fiction conventions, even tech to some extent (when I can afford it), etc., etc. -- and I have found over the years that younger guys are much more into those things that people my own age (even when I was in my 40s or so, I am now in my early 60s).
Also I like the generational difference because I can learn things for a younger guy that I might not otherwise be able to -- certainly, again, not with guys my own age.
I have been off and on SilverDaddies for years and maybe only meet two guys in that time in person, for coffee, and there was no repeat.
Most of the time, guys will message you to death, but never want to actual meet if you are a guy looking for "Strings Attached".Like most sites for gay men, SD is for hook-ups first and foremost. Guys looking for relationships are rare.
The thing I will tell the younger guy here who is looking for an older partner is that YOU will find you get to pick and choose who you want. Over the years I have compared the ratio of men over 40 looking for men under 40 and it is like 5 to 1 in favor of the younger guys.
You will be the one who is really making the choice.Also, you should consider what type of relationship you want. There are guys who just find someone of a different age more interesting -- both ways. There are also guys who are looking for a "Daddy/son" relationship where a certain amount of Dom/sub in the relationship. If you are looking to be treated as an equal by an older guy, you will have to look more carefully.
After literally decades of searching, I might have meet someone -- well, to the extend we are suppose to have a 2nd date this weekend. Whether or not that happens I just have to wait to see. I don't really hope anymore; it became too brutal to me to be stood-up over and over and over again year after year.
I am a nice guy -- but there is the saying that "Nice Guys Finish Last".
sigh
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I am a nice guy – but there is the saying that "Nice Guys Finish Last".
sigh
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+thanks for reply,
im also some kind of nerd (not major tho ), 3d game artist to be a little bit more specific.i guess im still searching for myself in terms of relationship with older men. i wanna hang out and spend my time with them, make them feel good.
every day after work i see handsome guy (i guess hes around 65 years old) walking his beagle. since every day he passes next to me in his walking route i started to greet him and from day to day we exchange few quick words (he even started to greet me with "hello handsome!" since he doesnt know my name) - this just makes my day, this simple greet with unknown 65 year old handsome man walking his dog. i feel really good and happy after that happens.. so weird
im from europe, from small country where being gay is "bad thing". despite that we have few gay clubs, even saunas which i havent visited yet.
you sound like nice person, too bad im on other side of planet so cant go on coffee with you haha.
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First, congratulations for using Linux.
Second, check out silverdaddies.com. I have met a lot of guys there over the years. If you are from Europe, gayroyal.com is good as well.
hah im not using linux think i will need to fix my profile!!
im from eu, will check this gayroyal . thx -
What kind of partner?
For sex? : Just go to any daddy/son gay hookup site or go to a gay sex club and mess with older guys. I doubt they will reject or refuse you. If they do, they are just assholes and just ignore them. The only bad thing is the danger factor in this and you won't see these types of guys after you have sex.
For relationships? : This is a lot harder and difficult and I don't want to give false hopes or play with your emotions like that.
thx for reply. advices will really help.
im not sure how to describe relationship i want with older guys.. i just wanna spend some time with them, i guess im not for relationship. when i will have chance one day i will go to gay club to see whats going on.gay clubs are in my countrys capital town and i live a little bit far away from them so its complicated.
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There are few thing to be considered due to our reality:
- Gay ppl are less than str8 ones
- Gay ppl interested in long terms relationships are a minority this days
- We are not attracted to every gay men
- Due to your interest, gay men over 50 interested in a boy for a long term relation… even alot more difficult.
So.. i'm just dont wanna bother you, but don't push a lot to found YOUR men, just try to be happy, know ppl, who knows ppl, and who knows maybe it will appear from somewhere. I think that love can be found but not search, life will it bring it to you exactly when you are ready. This is my experience.
But when you found you will fight for it, remember the difficulty and accept that you probably will have to change some things about your life if it worth.
I had a long term relationship since my 20, 14 years of relation with one, and now 3 years with my current partner. And in order to follow my true love i had to change my hole life, to move on to another city, to left my family, etc.
And be patient with your men taste, it will probably change in the future once you get more experience.
Excuse my spelling, i'm from Argentine.
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So.. i'm just dont wanna bother you, but don't push a lot to found YOUR men, just try to be happy, know ppl, who knows ppl, and who knows maybe it will appear from somewhere. I think that love can be found but not search, life will it bring it to you exactly when you are ready. This is my experience.
Yes agree.. Don't push too hard.
i did mistake for my first relationship when i was 26 (he was 61). Wasted my 3 years with people who didn't love me. After broke up, i told myself that i would not into relationship anymore and wanna live free. Met a friend and after few months, we knew each other, i felt he was so special to me and we fell in love each other. Im 34 now and he is 70. been together for 3 years now. We met on silverdaddies.com -
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