Communication Breakdown (?)
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A few years ago I signed up for an online dating service, where the matches they gave me weren't the best. Listed within those matches was someone I found somewhat interesting, and began talking with through e mail. After a few e mails about common interests and such, he suddenly stopped responding. Being the type of person who likes being social, a year ago I decided to send him another e mail, which basically lead to a similar situation.
While on a trip out of the country, I started going through my e mail lists, once again contacting people I haven't spoken to in awhile. He was one of them. This time the situation was a bit different. Over a two week period of time, we exchanged e mails almost daily. As the two weeks went on, the e mails became less frequent, with really no signals of him not being interested in talking. He even said to me at one point that he wonders why we never did meet up, and that it must have had something to do with him dating someone at the time.
Not getting the communication we started with, I decided to take the plunge and offer up my phone number, saying that maybe text would be better for him. He agreed, gave me his number, and communication continued. Over the last 2 weeks I am seeing similar patterns to our e mail conversations. While we get along and have similar interests, he almost only sends me something when I send to him, if I am even that lucky to get a response. I have asked for more information about him, and even to meet up, I was ignored.
Am I doing something wrong here? Is there something I can do to progress or get closure?
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Without being directly involved, it's hard to say what's going on.
It could be something you are doing OR it could be this guy isn't interested in a relationship because he's already in one. Maybe he wants a more direct contact; ie person to person, not on the phone.
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See I'm like the guy you are talking about. Like I met this cute 23 years old guy a month ago, I talked to him on the net and then I stopped never called him and all. He lives like 5 miles away. But I will later maybe contact him again. Why ? well … People can be scared to meet someone for lots of reason and avoidance behavior can be triggered for also many reasons. So it's not that uncommon and maybe you didn't do anything wrong. ( but as Raphjd said It's hard to tell without knowing whats going on)
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Without being directly involved, it's hard to say what's going on.
It could be something you are doing OR it could be this guy isn't interested in a relationship because he's already in one. Maybe he wants a more direct contact; ie person to person, not on the phone.
I know he isn't in a relationship. To be sure I wasn't misunderstanding, I straight out asked. We have been talking on and off within the last 24 hours about relationships and such, where he has been a bit more open than usual. I'm just unsure of how to approach the situation.
I am starting to think that while I move very slow, he moves even slower.
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i think they searching only for sex relation!!
