If I never come out of closet…
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Live your life and do what you feel is best. There are no rules when it comes to life.
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I think it will be really tough if you tell no one. You should at least have some friends who will know, right? Maybe not now since you're young but later on.
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Dude. Listen to me.
Your parents, and people who really love you, will still love you no matter what.
I'm 22 yo, and I came out to my mom 12 days ago, so it's very fresh into my head.
I was really afraid about her reaction. I had been fighting with my worst fears for many years since I found out that I'm gay.
During the last week before I come out, I was extremely overwhelmed. I was so excited because I was about to tell her the bare truth, but in the same time, I was freaked out. There was one day, that I'd been feeling like I was having a stroke.
There is NO reason to be depressed. My mother is one of those who had been judging gay people, and this is the reason why I was afraid of telling her. Because I had been thinking that she wouldn't accept me, or that she would be extremely sad. None of this happened. She told me that I'm her son, that she loves me no matter what I am, and that she will always support me. Since then, I feel reborn. Previously, I had been feeling like there was a hand which was pressing me to my chest, and that I couldn't breathe, and now I'm extremely relieved!
2 female friends, 1 male cousin, and 1 male friend of mine knew the truth about me, before I come out to my sis, and a week after, to my mother. If you haven't talked to your friends, go ahead and talk to them. Talk to those who can really be trusted. They may be in a better position to advise you and guide you, cuz they know you, and they might know your parents, too.
Stop being self-destructive and unhappy. I wish I had told her earlier. I wouldn't be in that shitty position torturing myself for so many years. I didn't say anything to my father, tho. As long as my mother knows, I'm OK with that. I wish you good luck. -
happiness and unhappiness in adulthood is not simply related to your sexuality, you will suffer kinds of troubles, and then you will find out your sexuality is the not a problem no one care you. if you are less sexual driven it’s better to be closet otherwise to be out. to be a gay have many benefits, so dude just be a happier gay in a closet or outside
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Coming out depends on your culture and where you live.
If you are in America, its no big deal anymore. No one but the haters even cares and luckily, their numbers are shrinking very much. But if you live in Russia or Mongolia or most backwoods third world countries? Definitely think hard and long about it. You don't want to put yourself in danger. -
there is no rule that you need to come out if you are gay…just be yourself
