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acakbenak

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@acakbenak:

I'm negative, and my boyfriend is HIV+.
Before we started the relationship, we did check our statuses and both came back negative.
We did not use protection at all after that. I (always) swallowed his cum and I always cum inside him.

The following month, he had to go through a full medical check up for his work. His result came back positive.

We've been together for a year, and I still suck his dick without condom.
I checked regularly, every 90 days, and I am still negative.

To be safe, as recommended by our doctor and by the staff at a testing center in Sydney, we figured out safety measures: I suck his dick until he gets hard without condom first, and we will continue with condom – although they confirmed that swallowing has a very minimum risk of HIV contraction.

When it comes to anal sex, we always use protection, now. It felt weird at first -- I lost my erection every now and then, because I was so used to barebacking -- but it gets better. Our doctor recommended to apply lubricants to my dick before I put the condom on.

However, it all depends on ourselves. I mean, if it is a one night stand, I would make sure of his status and I would take more precautions. I would still do all, with protection.

We are in a monogamous-love-based-long-term-relationship, so you might see it as a different case.

I got confused.. You are negative but your boyfriend isn't?

I'm afraid that in this case you should be more protective towards yourself..

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@acakbenak:

Yes, I am negative and my boyfriend is not.
He is on medication already, and I am aware that there are risks for me to get HIV from him.

Since we knew his status, we always do safe sex. We also gather more information on HIV/AIDS from every source there is, and from every expert we could find. We also have several friends who are positive or in a relationship with a positive partner.

Our relationship does involve sex, a lot of them, and also involve a lot of other things aside of sex.

Have you ever thought that 'things' could change?

Will you be or are you prepared for such an issue?

Sorry for replying so late.

When I met him, we had ourselves checked. At that time, the last time I had sex was more than three months. He, on the other hand, just had a one night stand a couple of days before. That's why, I think, the result came back negative.

When we found out that he is positive, he begged me to leave him. Yes, I had thoughts about leaving him. But it's not that easy.
I have just had a terrible relationship before I met him, and with him, everything seems just right. I did seek information on the matter, and I discuss everything with him. I know the risks, and I am prepared.

Wish me luck, guys.

DamaDama

i would think it before i had sex with a HIV positive guy.Even oral.

samiderwish

i think if u use condum its safe