Straight Guys, a documentary by Daniel Laurin

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hXXp://www.queerty.com/new-striaght-guys-doc-explores-why-so-many-straight-dudes-work-
in-gay-porn-20140606
Straight Guys, a documentary film by Daniel Laurin, played last year at the DOC NOW Festival in Toronto.

Check out the trailer over at StraightGuysDoc.com
hXXp://straightguysdoc.com/

Queerty, as maybe everyone and their brother is aware, is a gay news site that tends to obsess over celeb nudity
and the like. The link cited is correct except for the XX part, even though there is a misspelled word involved. I just
cut and pasted, noticed the error, so entered the URL again and yes, it is valid. Personally, I like Boyd McDonald's
preference for "strait" as the preferred spelling, but that is a matter of politics. Where someone is het but not narrow,
I use str8, but each to his own.

This movie contains interviews, etc. and those interested in what male porn performers are like when they are at home,
which I always think is interesting, even if it does open up the tedious discussion in which some say the performers all
are actually gay and in an Egyptian river (does that joke work outside of English speech? The (sa) Nile = denial), and
others say no, they're just bi– so then everyone can debate whether being bi- or polysexual (if yr horny, fuck it; any
port in a storm, a hard prick has no conscience, etc. etc.) is a real thing.

I think the reality is far more complicated and diverse and nuanced than that, frankly. The case has been made that
heterosexuality was invented  a little over a century ago when the homosickness was segregated out from other
sexual behaviors and labeled a pathology-- until Evelyn Hooker came along (look her up amongst the torrents or Wikipedia)
and changed the world.

I mean, people do what they do and it is not a rule book that makes a man pitch a tent only in "approved" circumstances.
Amirite? For rent boys and porn performers who make a living professionally by having sex. In theory, that means they are
good at it. Not having seen the movie, and not finding it on this site so far, I cannot say what the interviewed people have
to say, but there are some other documentaries here that do interview some name performers.

Colby Jansen, professional rugby player and former US Marine (with a college degree in... chemistry is it?) has now topped (and
occasionally bottomed) often enough that he no longer has a label for himself. He met his wife when she was a male-to-female
pre-op transexual. Johnny Rapid lives with his gf and has a couple of kids, mostly bottoms but is a ferocious top when given a
chance. Me, I like watching hot young studs from the gay porn pay sites who occasionally also get to show they know how to
service a woman. And am I the only one who gets tired of some of these dudes who only top? Oh, yeah, they are just so strait
and uptite that is all they can do because real men don't "take it like a man."

Right. Real men take it dish it out any way they want. Want to make something of it? Step outside and we can use our fists for
a measuring contest.

Right. My political rant. Just makes me unhappy to see so many st8s getting deepthroated by a man and, after years of dealing
with women who cannot or will not take them completely, are having the best blowjob of their lives until they are, from head to
toe and base to crown, limp as a dishrag. They could have so much more fulfillment if they did not let their judgmental childhood
prejudices ban them from available pleasuring.

Anyway, just came across this documentary title and hope to be able to watch it sometime soon. Maybe it is just lascivious perving
on my part, but I think it is interesting and useful to find out what pros-- whatever label they prefer-- have to say about their
sexual behavior.

Then again, I like the interviews with surfers, skaters, active military, and other guys talking about their favorite positions and
fantasies with women, and to hear them talk candidly about their first experiences, and that sort of thing. With the Internet
these days, it is easier to find out about the sex histories and preferred behaviors of random, ordinary guys, but for those of us
who grew up in ignorance and terror (back before today's "love that won't shut up," in the repressed times when the love "that
dare not speak its name" was barely even whispered), the massive amount of info all around us in this post-Kinsey era can still
be pretty interesting.

Just as most guys think their dick is too small and have some exaggerated idea of "average" length and girth, they may have some
odd notion of how many partners are normal, what is the age of virginity loss, and how often one fucks or jacks off per day or per
week. Esp. given that men lie (to each other and to women), these topics are also a matter of tribal rituals, boasting, etc. But get
enough stories and patterns do emerge.

Or, maybe I just still do not know anything. I asked someone in the Forum whether people think that gay sex is not "real sex" if
it is limited to oral action, or whether only anal counted as "actual sex." Does that mean all those youthful years, everyone who
had a gay friend, closeted or otherwise, assumed they were fucking or getting fucked? Do "mundanes" outside the gay realm
think only the top is manly and that a bottom is effeminate, a fairy, a pansy, not a "real man"?

Oh, questions, questions. All the more relevant when so many kidz today live and die by their cell phones and their hookup aps,
and their naked selfies. Even among the narrowest of straits, it seems like there is much less nervousness, ignorance, and
general hysteria over "doing it," so that in today's v different world than the one we boomers were born into (making us what Uncle
Tim Leary called mutants, the first post-atomic generation), change is more rapid than ever.

In fact, perhaps we collectively are not changing from one thing to another, but now in a constant state of flux and full-time
change, once presciently called "the electronic social transformation," back before the world divided up between "children of the
future" (thank you Steve Miller) and stubborn troglodyte oldies who have not realized what Bob Dylan taught us long, long
ago-- he not busy being born is busy dying.

Hard to believe but in my lifetime, that a pioneer gay activist could get dismissed by fellow members of the Mattachine Society
(oh, look it up!) for anticipating gay pride parades a few decades early. Not gonna happen, they said. "We're sick. This is
a sickness and will never be acceptable."

And among hets desperately thwarted trying to reach "second base" with a girl ("Not without a wedding ring you don't!" Annette
famously told her surfer beach party movie boyfriend), whatever they were up to was a mystery to me then, so I have no idea
how that all has changed for them.

And when you are old and feeble and over 40, an antique as invisible in bars as any ghost, watching gay marriage turn into
the normal position, it is even more difficult to keep track of these things.

Which is, he said, winding down at last, why I'd be interested in seeing the title documentary to add some data to help sort
out the mysteries of a man with a maid, or another man, or some of each. Surely it would be a useful addition to the porn
star documentaries already available here. I'd like to think these films and discussions can lead to more and more people being
more and more willing to unload far more freely, and combine forces with other willing partners instead of having to make
do with their fist.