What's the best position to bottom for the first time
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So i've been on a relationship for months now, and my bf is a bottom, but lately, he's been asking to top me, i never bottomed before, so i was wondering what positions do u guys recommend, that hurt less
thanks!
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This is my opinion, and based on my experience. Please take it for what it is.
If your biggest concern is "it's going to hurt", you might want to consider the "cowboy" position, as it puts you more in control. You can straddle your partner, facing him, squatting over him, taking in his penis as slowly or quickly or deeply as you choose, and you get to see the look on his face. If you need to lower the intensity for yourself, you can lean forward for a kiss, hug or to suck/nibble/lick on whatever bodypart is exposed that appeals to you most and is in reach, be it his ears, nipples or hairy armpits. ;D
Also, that butt of yours is home to the largest muscle in the body, the gluteus maximus. So, even if you aren't buff enough to bounce your pecs, you should be able to squeeze his cock as you rise up, then relax your butt as you slide down, grinding him in such a way that should make up for any negative feelings he might have about not being a "controlling top" during the fun.
It's sex. Ideally, it's supposed to please both of you. You can also jack off a bit while you're doing it…or, if you find that it's more pleasurable than you expected you can keep your hands off yourself and all over HIM. :hug2:
Obviously, there are many other options to try once you're more "loose" or "experienced". But, if pain is your worry, I think this position gives you the best chance of making his first visit into your ass a welcome experience for you. And, afterwards, you can probably try other options with far more pleasure than pain. And, if talk to him and ask him to be gentle, I'm sure he'll work up slowly, rather than pounding you into next week and having your co-workers as why you're walking funny the next day. (Of course, you could do this the night before your day(s) off, so they never have to know.)
PERSONALLY, I much prefer any position where I can see the man I'm with, no matter which of us is "top". I want to see his reactions…and have him see mine.
As a closing thought, there is the remote chance that you won't enjoy it as much as he does. If that's the case, you'll need to decide for yourself whether that means "the door is closed", or you're willing to let him top you occasionally to make him happy.
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Lube and experience should help, not really the position. Preparation such as start with one finger, two fingers (lube) up your ass or possibly a small dildo. Slow, steady and communication. If he's pounding and get too excited, good luck
Try a form of the leg glider, you really don't have to do a split, just spread your legs enough like you're walking, one foot forward but laying on your side. Like a scissor, perfect for your partner to see the hole and you can feel his weight if he's leaning on you. If he's laying on you, he'll feel you and hear you closely, possibly go gentle. Not to mention he's in position for him to lean forward to passionately kiss you while he is deep inside (lube). When he's kissing you and deep inside, there is a good chance you guys are both enjoying it as you're feeling all the emotions and you're probably not even thinking about any pain. Communication is key the first time around. Tell him to go gentle if you're hurting because if you don't you might have an accident.
I added others, not really great positions but just in case you want to get wild (not recommended, but just in case… pile driver, pyramid, soaring eagle and suspended congress)
ENJOY!So i've been on a relationship for months now, and my bf is a bottom, but lately, he's been asking to top me, i never bottomed before, so i was wondering what positions do u guys recommend, that hurt less
thanks!
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It varies from people to people… For me, missionary and doggy seem to be good ones.
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Wow, thanks a lot guys!!!
I've been considering buying a samll dildo, or prostate stimulator first and try.
I've tried to bottom once before, but it hurt so much that i never tried again :s
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face to face.
Eye contact makes it even nicer. -
I have only been with two guys where I was their first top. In each case we established that he was going to give bottoming a try, but I told him we are going to have fun no matter what happens, and fucking today did not necessarily have to occur. I made him straddle me in the "cowboy" position so that he could control how deep and when. As JakeDF said "lean forward for a kiss, hug or to suck/nibble/lick on whatever bodypart is exposed that appeals to you most and is in reach, be it his ears, nipples or hairy armpits" - while all of that sexy stuff is going on, you rub your ass crack up and down his cock, and slowly push back when and if you are ready.
Both guys went slowly, and worked my cockhead in past their first sphincter great, and then on that success took the second sphincter too quickly – and painfully. With both guys we just dropped the idea of either of us fucking and concentrated having a good time doing everything else we liked to do sexually. Turns out both guys decided after a while that they wanted to give it a second try, and had pain free success.
Being mentally relaxed and sexually turned on, will allow your body to physically relax and let you get fucked pain and/or discomfort free.
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So i've been on a relationship for months now, and my bf is a bottom, but lately, he's been asking to top me, i never bottomed before, so i was wondering what positions do u guys recommend, that hurt less
thanks!
For me its on my back with my legs on my husbands shoulders
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straddling is the best, and it may take time to get used to but have fun thats what matters
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Riding is best like mentioned above… but I have found with larger partners, even though Im a experienced bottom, me on my stomach and not being able to see helps alleviate some of the fear as our eyes and minds are tricksters
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Thanks for all the advice, but we broke up actually so don't know if bottoming is gonna happen anytime soon ;/
