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    What to do? i'm still single!

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      jerson0329 last edited by

      i came out 7 years ago and i cant seem to find someone to date (or even someone who wants to date me). I think it has something to do with me being socially awkward and average looking. can anyone at least give me tips on how to get someone to notice me.

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        myrea last edited by

        1- Analyse what you have to offer, are you your best YOU? Are you proud of yourself, read any great books or seen interesting things to create a conversation?
        2- Is this the suitable enviromnent? Where are you meeting these guys, how is their experience of your company?

        3- REJECTION IS A LONG LONG ROAD TO WALK, stay strong and you will find some great people for you.

        :hug:

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          jay1 last edited by

          average looking is hard to say
          without seeing what you look like, average for me is not the same as average for you.

          as for finding someone? just keep looking. there's someone for everyone and with apps, it's much easier today than before

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            macrom91 last edited by

            4- Get fit. If you want to date a lot of people, and find love, abs is the fastest way (I know it's really sad to say :cry2: but we leave in a bad and superficial world)
            5- Don't run too fast. If you start a date thinking "This will be a relationship" you'll be under a lot of pressure. If you start thinking "I'm just looking for friends" you'll be more relaxed and you'll have better conversations. Having a lot of friends makes easier to find somebody to love  😉
            (I'm really sorry for my terrible english  ;D)

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              rubledlover last edited by

              I would say: just let it happen…

              I found my greatest love without searching for. we've seen us in a bar on saturday night, but did not have contact.
              On sunday we met again in the bar at coffee time, we talked together, i gave him a right home cause his car was at the auto repair shop.
              He promised to give me a call on monday, and he did...

              Our relationship ended January 17, 2012 after 32 years 10 months . He did not return from hospital.

              So don't worry if it does not happen immediately, take your time to find the right one.

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                flashboy last edited by

                There must be some attraction, can't light a fire without a spark…

                1. Be physical attractive. And yeah, we can all say that beauty lies in the eye of the beholder but there is a reason why so many actors and models have a similar look, even if they are consider to be sexy, charming, cute or handsome...
                2. Have a fantastic personality, be the guy everyone wants to hang out with. Easy going people are more easy going... With that said, you must still be an interesting guy, there are a lot of nice guys and well they are nice, but boring.
                3. Have a large wallet and be generous... And it is not about you're looking for gold diggers, but guys who at least have a decent economy tends to be more funny to spend time with than a guy who is always broke, who would buy you a beer to cheer you up for instance. (Number three is more important if he doesn't have a fantastic personality or are physical attractive...)
                (4.Then we have the fetish sector, I could spend my days playing dominant role games or have guys licking my feet, but if you're not really in to that - don't play that card... Your mostly their sexual fantasy, not their dream boyfriend...)

                If you have all three (let's skip 4), lucky you, but then you never posted this... Have at least one, not saying you can't meet someone, and it will take more than just be the hunk, the funny to have a serious relationship, but this will easily get you to the first level...

                Great minds discuss ideas,
                average minds discuss events,
                small minds discuss other people…

                Eleanor Roosevelt

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                  danijelr15 last edited by

                  Your mindset is completely wrong to begin with. You're thinking about being single as if something's broken and now you have to fix it. As others mentioned, easiest fix is to get ripped and become a slut. You'll feel like you've accomplished something and others will praise your effort.

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                    flashboy last edited by

                    @danijelr15:

                    Your mindset is completely wrong to begin with. You're thinking about being single as if something's broken and now you have to fix it. As others mentioned, easiest fix is to get ripped and become a slut. You'll feel like you've accomplished something and others will praise your effort.

                    Agree on that…

                    Great minds discuss ideas,
                    average minds discuss events,
                    small minds discuss other people…

                    Eleanor Roosevelt

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                      jerson0329 last edited by

                      gym time 🙂

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                        portokall last edited by

                        Being supportive means making your partner's happiness and well-being a priority, in ways big and small. Keep in mind that part of why you're together in the first place is that you're each other's biggest fans, so make sure you act like it. Try demonstrating your support in these ways: Be a good listener. If your partner needs you to lend an ear, do it willingly. You don't always need to come up with a solution, just support. Offer encouragement. If your partner is trying to make a positive change, start a new hobby, or undertake a difficult challenge, be his or her biggest cheerleader.Provide a safe place. Allow your partner to be vulnerable in front of you without fear of judgment.

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                          cureton last edited by

                          keep lookng you¡ll find if this is really your goal.

                          But being single is not that bad

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                            uzuzjh last edited by

                            the whole planet is SINGLE! you come and go ALONE!
                            stop looking and in this very moment someone will come, promise!
                            but you REALLY have to stop!! also start loving yourself… you're unique!!! 🙂

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                              uzuzjh last edited by

                              @rubledlover:

                              Our relationship ended January 17, 2012 after 32 years 10 months . He did not return from hospital.

                              das ist so traurig… aber wenigsten hast du ihn gekannt. kopf hoch! 🙂

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                                Nickknack last edited by

                                What's wrong with being single ? You get to eat that whole tub of icecream by yourself without having to share it! (and then you have something to catch your tears when you realise how lonely you are KIDDING!)

                                There's not wrong with being socially awkward, we all have our moments - my advice is just try and push yourself out of your comfort zone even if it's just a tiny bit - How about joining a club or something that you have an interest in ? It might not get you a date but you might meet some new friends - and those friends have circles of their own friends and eventually you'll be walking down the aisle in no time.

                                But don't think there's something wrong with you because you're single. There's no rule book that says that after this certain amount of years you should be in a relationship. Just be you.

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                                  ajnessaholic last edited by

                                  Don't worry buddy, you;re not alone. I'm 21 and still single

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                                    cureton last edited by

                                    Great

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                                      acupcake94 last edited by

                                      Kind of feel the same way. My guess is that you're focusing too much on the relationship thing. The best thing to do is leave this goal behind, as it will come by itself on right time.
                                      Im still single at 25, and my biggest mistake is to want too much too fast. You must take the time to have actual social interaction before thinking about the relationship thing.
                                      Being socially awkward is a bitch though, can testify.

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                                        2222 Moderator last edited by

                                        I'm single and happy  :hapgay:

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                                          holdfast last edited by

                                          hey chin up, there's someone out there for everyone!

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                                            Flinxxx last edited by

                                            @uzuzjh:

                                            the whole planet is SINGLE! you come and go ALONE!
                                            stop looking and in this very moment someone will come, promise!
                                            but you REALLY have to stop!! also start loving yourself… you're unique!!! 🙂

                                            Happy, care-free people are physically and emotionally attractive. People ‘looking’ for a relationship come across as desperate and needy – not attractive traits.

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