Any Tip So I Can Avoid The Pain Once Someone Will Make Love To Me?
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I am bottom but…. i am virgin. One of the reasons is that i am afraid that the penetration is painful.
Any advice so i can avoid the pain? -
Get him to play with your hole a while with his tongue and or finger first to help relax it. Then when ready, use lube. A sniff of poppers can help the relaxation, but usually the feeling of horniness and your arse wanting to receive is usually enough. It may hurt a little at first, so get him to ease his cock in gently to start with. Once in you'll soon get sued to it and any hurt after that becomes a nice hurt you'd want more of lol. Different positions can help too. ::)
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Thanks to the both of you! :love: :love: :cheesy2:
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I'll try to keep this simple, but that may not be possible.
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Empty yourself out before attempting anal sex. For me, this entails using the bathroom thoroughly. After that, and before taking a shower, I spit on my fingers to lube them up and insert them to make sure nothing has been left behind. If I can go fairly deep into my anus without feeling any sign of feces, I consider myself ready for cock. This exercise also loosens up the ass muscles, assuming you'll be having sex soon afterward.
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Take a shower. Aside from it just being pleasant, the guy may want to eat your ass or finger you. Do not give him any surprises that will ruin the mood.
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Understand your ass. This may be obvious to you, but entering the rectum and anus are two different things. The anus needs to be coaxed open a bit; he cannot simply slam his cock inside you. Before a man enters me I tend to finger myself, reaching into the anus, preferably using some lube. If lube is not available, spit will do.
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You are in control. I know exactly what gets me off, and as a man who also tops, I know what gets the other guy off. Get on top of the man your first time and insert the cock yourself. There is a moment when the anus 'accepts' it, and the cock slides fully inside you. That's a great feeling for both of you and marks the point where fucking can commence. This may take a minute or two.
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Lube. If you are using a condom you are going to need more lube than usual – otherwise it will hurt. Usually the guy's precum and the texture of his penis eases the pain; however with a condom neither of those are available. Spit is not so great when using a condom, but it works -- and eventually your ass will produce a kind of mucus that functions as lube. Condom or not, there can rarely be too much lube. On a side note, be sure to put the bottle of KY on the floor and not leave it on the bed; otherwise you will end up rolling over on the bottle and getting it all over your sheets. LOL. This has happened many times to me.
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Let us return to number 4. You are in control. When something doesn't feel good you should be vocal about it. You are not someone's bitch just because they are fucking you. In fact, the opposite may be true. Often, I need to stop to add a bit more lube.
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Find your A-spot. An anal orgasm will make you never care if you top again. I laugh at 'top only' guys who have no idea what they're missing. Home experimentation with a dildo or vegetable can help you discover this area. Once you do, the entire game changes.
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I'll try to keep this simple, but that may not be possible.
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Empty yourself out before attempting anal sex. For me, this entails using the bathroom thoroughly. After that, and before taking a shower, I spit on my fingers to lube them up and insert them to make sure nothing has been left behind. If I can go fairly deep into my anus without feeling any sign of feces, I consider myself ready for cock. This exercise also loosens up the ass muscles, assuming you'll be having sex soon afterward.
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Take a shower. Aside from it just being pleasant, the guy may want to eat your ass or finger you. Do not give him any surprises that will ruin the mood.
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Understand your ass. This may be obvious to you, but entering the rectum and anus are two different things. The anus needs to be coaxed open a bit; he cannot simply slam his cock inside you. Before a man enters me I tend to finger myself, reaching into the anus, preferably using some lube. If lube is not available, spit will do.
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You are in control. I know exactly what gets me off, and as a man who also tops, I know what gets the other guy off. Get on top of the man your first time and insert the cock yourself. There is a moment when the anus 'accepts' it, and the cock slides fully inside you. That's a great feeling for both of you and marks the point where fucking can commence. This may take a minute or two.
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Lube. If you are using a condom you are going to need more lube than usual – otherwise it will hurt. Usually the guy's precum and the texture of his penis eases the pain; however with a condom neither of those are available. Spit is not so great when using a condom, but it works -- and eventually your ass will produce a kind of mucus that functions as lube. Condom or not, there can rarely be too much lube. On a side note, be sure to put the bottle of KY on the floor and not leave it on the bed; otherwise you will end up rolling over on the bottle and getting it all over your sheets. LOL. This has happened many times to me.
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Let us return to number 4. You are in control. When something doesn't feel good you should be vocal about it. You are not someone's bitch just because they are fucking you. In fact, the opposite may be true. Often, I need to stop to add a bit more lube.
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Find your A-spot. An anal orgasm will make you never care if you top again. I laugh at 'top only' guys who have no idea what they're missing. Home experimentation with a dildo or vegetable can help you discover this area. Once you do, the entire game changes.
Thank you!
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It should get less uncomfortable with practice
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This is very helpful and enlightening, thank you
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Lube , and lots of rimming before , during and after.
