Partner's Best Friend
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I've been with my partner around 5 years, but the entire time I've really really lusted after his best friend. To make matters worse, his best friend and I have a good bit more in common than myself and my partner. Has anyone else had these problems? How do you deal with it?
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I personally would talk to my partner about it. That being said, my partner and I have an understanding that we can talk about anything with each other and we are also both aware that we do find other people (in addition to each other) attractive.
At that point your partner and you and then talk about how to proceed with the relationship and this guy who you have feeling towards.
It may simply be a simple crush or it maybe that you feel something for this guy because he gives you something your partner lacks. You need to figure out what is driving the lust after this guy. IE: sexual, emotional, social, etc…
Once you understand the reason behind the lust and you talk to your partner, you can see how to proceed. You need to figure out where your relationship is going, if it is open or exclusive. If yall want to have a 3rd person to fill the gaps you two are not filling for each other, etc...
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Never had it but I understand the situation. Some guys I met had the same problem, and its always a dangerous issue, because always easier to make some enemies than a friend. This kind of thing could end up really bad if one wrong step taken.
I hope you can keep your distance, because your partner is the main canter, not his best friend.
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Thank you both for the advice! :lovp:
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Honesty is always the best policy, no mater how things workout. Life will continue and you will find happiness so long as you continue to seek it. - Me, just now
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this is a nice story
