Moving to a city, making friends
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Hi
I'm pretty new here and decided to say something about my life. So yeah… I live, and have always lived, in a town that's mostly field, forrest and people who know others things better than their own. I'm moving to Tampere, a city with less fields and forrests, as soon as I find an apartment from there. Reasons I'm moving are: 1. I want to start from the scratch 2. Most of my friends are ruining their lifes and I'm tired of looking at that 3. I'm lonely in this small god-forsaken town 4. I hate jobs this town has to offer etc...
Problem is this. I'm pretty antisocial person, so making friends isn't my strongest skill and I only kinda know 2 girls (Ewww! Cooties!!!) from Tampere and they're pretty much from a different planet than me. I'd like to become more social and meet some gay people so I've made some research about Tampere's gaylife and found out, that theres a gay club called Mixei! Maybe I should check it out. Who knows where it may lead. Then there's also Pirkanmaan seta (LGBT rights association of Pirkanmaa) which arranges events and group activities. Maybe, maybe.
I'm not searching for bf, but gay friends so I wouldn't feel myself as...unique as now. I guess everyone dreams about relationship at some point, but I'm willing to wait and see. If it's going to happen... Why the fuck not?
So thats it... Anyone have advices how to approach people or do you have experience about moving to a strange city and connecting with people?
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I spent my youth as a Gay Man moving around a lot for the sake of experience of other areas and because it was easy to move in my job. I never had trouble with making Friends but then I am not a ~ pretty antisocial person.
I did make the Best Friends from just such Groups as you mention here. Any Gay Social Group will offer a wide variety of members even if it is a Specialized Group ~ Like Leather Clubs etc.
Organizations where you can become a Volunteer in Gay Charity or Political work are excellent for meeting new Friends as well.
Anyone have advices how to approach people…...
This will take effort on your part ~ you just need to be more open and friendly with strangers basically. Don't be afraid to try to start a conversation with strangers. If they blow you off then they were not worth knowing to begin with.
I learned a long time ago that the drop dead stud's have problems meeting people because every one is afraid to talk to them. Don't be one of those people ~ say hello and chat a bit. I bet you will be surprised. :lovp:
