Me & my friend had a moment while drunk
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So last night me and my friend drank a lot. Now mind you we always have joked around about pretending to fuck each other but it was always just a joke. He's straight so far as I know. So last night I decided to take advantage of the situation of being drunk and try to "goof off" again when I realize that he is hard. He said he felt so confused cuz he knows that liquor tends to bring out what you're truly feeling, even if it's deeply subconcious and that he didn't know how to feel. Then he told me he wants me to suck him. So we take his pants and underwear off and I grab his dick. Then after less then a minute he pulls his pants up and says "what am I doing". What does this mean? I'm thinking he has the potential to be at least bisexual. What should I do now?
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Uff!! I found myself in a similar situation a couple of years ago with my best friend, who is straight. I was having serious problems with my boyfriend of the time and asked my mate to go with me to Cadiz for a few days, just to get away. There's not too much to do there except hang out at the beach and drink, so one night we get back to our hotel room, wine bottles in hand and start talking about life and other drunken bullshit. By the time we got around to "What's it like having sex with a guy?" I was already looking at him like a horny sailor.
Nothing happened but I've always sort of known that it could have. Not because my friend is secretely bisexual (He's really not), but because it would have been a bad idea.
Your friend likes you. That's why he's your friend. Sometimes you can feel so comfortable with someone that you let your guard down. Two straight guys hugging, for example, at the airport clearly doesn't make them gay. I know that's not quite the same as asking someone to suck your dick, but since when has cock sucking been as intimate as a good hug. I mean, he wanted you to suck his dick, not the other way round. If he'd said, "I want to know what you feel like inside of me" or "I want to gobble up your man-stick " or even "Come sit on my face" I'd have to wonder about his straight-ness. For a lot of people sex is just sex and anybody can suck your cock with the lights out.
Should you take advantage of his willingness to have you go down on him?
Not if he's a friend you want to keep. Drunk off his ass, he might be able to reason that a mouth is just a mouth or a hole's a hole but will he still feel like that in the morning or will he be so weirded out that he'll do whatever he can to avoid having to see you again?
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He's most likely a closet case that can't/won't get off the fence.
I have truly hetero friends that don't get hard then want me to suck them. If they are horny, they want a woman {wife, girlfriend, slag, hooker, etc} to suck them off, but never another guy.
Yes, I think this guy is gay or at the very least curious. Sadly to say, if you do anything with him, he will no longer be your friend, even if he turns out to be the biggest flamer you ever met.
Religion/culture/society have made it so we blame the person who "turned us gay". This isn't an issue for those that knew they were gay before having a gay encounter, but it's a huge issue for those that haven't.
As I always say, "don't shit where you eat". In other words, if you want to stay friends with this guy, don't mess with him no matter what he says, because he will end up hating you for it, regardless of what he says.
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I totally agree with raphjd. I?ll give you another ?rule?: Don?t get involved with anyone you work with!
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Fistly, I AM NOT STATING THE FOLLOWING TO BE BITCHY OR TO INSULT THE POSTER: maybe he didn't like the way he was getting sucked off. Maybe he simply expected to feel more than he did. If so, that is certainly something I would not assert to a close gay friend after he sucked my dick.
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Be as normal as you could. You cannot be sure if he is gay or not or comfortable with you after this, just act normally, be the way you have always been. If he reacts OK and don't want to mention that night, just be his friend, don't push anything further. If he avoids you, stay away from him for a while, give him some time to think. Maybe, just maybe, he wanted to fool around with you but at the time you sucked him, he realized that he had gone too far and he didn't want to ruin your friendship. If he had continued, you would have thought that he wanted to hook up with you.
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Oh gosh what a situation you have there. I've had a couple, though not as intense, that are similar to yours. I would just act normal as everybody else has been advising. I'm sure he's confused or scared. Maybe he never knew he was gay or had the capacity to feel for a guy until he met you. It takes time and the right person, I believe, for a guy to realize his true sexuality or feelings for a person. Keep us posted on how it goes ;D. Good luck you!
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Things that solves everything: Alcohol. Try it again.
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Hello voodoo748,
Don't worry to much about it, THINGS HAPPEN!
I ended up sleeping with my boss (at a previous job) after a night of drinking… Everything was fine after (and the other times we slept together after that
). Oh and yes he was straight with an ex-wife and a 2 year old son, with a girlfriend (now his second wife and the mother of his second child).sgmusuk
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When I was in a similiar situation I thought to myself, would he have sex with me sobe? Suck my cock sober? We ended up watching some porn (bi-sexual), jacking-off ourselves, and passing out. We're still friends.
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he's just confused about a lot of things.
as are you.
talk it out without being chemically-inconvenienced.
a clear head can get you farther than you both think.
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I know this thread is a few months old, but I've also had this happen during the summer. The way I dealt with it was head on, if you're friends then you can talk about it and try and laugh it off which is what we managed to do. I think if worse comes to worse, you could both agree to just forget that it happened and that it didn't really change anything. Still friends at the end of the day and a few drunken activities shouldn't get in the way of that.
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That just depends on how much you value your friendship I suppose.
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its interesting o know everyones viewpoint
