Old age and desperation for sex before expiry date?
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To tell the truth, I'm now pass 60yo.
If I don't say it, nobody would know. But still I know it myself.One of my new fuck buddy saw my I.D. when we went to book a room with my I.D.
He looked surprised and while he complimented my body despite my age, his tone sounded condescending like he don't mind my age while fucking me as some sort of charitable act?I used to be quite conservative about sex. But slowly, I began exploring more. I hate to admit it myself, my hardon is slow and I began to enjoy being fucked. I used to hate the pain and merely tolerated it bc I had to at my previous job in the Middle East. But before I realized it, it grew on me.
I had always exercised and groomed my skin to look younger. Now white hair is showing and I dyed my hair.
After that incident, I suddenly felt an unease in my mind. He don't mind now but one day he would mind? It's like the party is over soon, should I grab all I can drink or eat before it's over.
I have a few gay mere acquaintances around my age and they were notorious DOM.To get to know them better and wondering maybe one day I'm just another DOM like them, when I chatted with them, I resignedly let them molest me, strip me naked and finger fucked me. It don't seem so bad that they could have their fun too.
Still, I began to explore the seedy part of me when I realised that wearing mask have liberating effect of anonymity. I began to explore public sex.
It's been so fun so far. But still I'm wondering if I'm being desperate doing things that I normally would never dare to think about. I'm too desperate to be seen as desirable? Where I never have this insecurity? Do I need to bother at all, just have fun?
I like to talk dirty.
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To begin, I'd be very concerned at the thought of anyone having public gay sex in Bahrain, if that's where it's happening.
The Internet gives anyone many options on meeting first online, and then in a private setting. So I'd say to anyone: public (urban) sex isn't wise, and if it's bathroom-type stuff, you will, eventually, be noted by straight men or kids that just want to take a piss, and they don't deserve that.
As for age, rest assured that there are lots of guys – from your own age to just legal -- who have a thing for sex with older guys. Again, the Internet with the various dating/sexting apps, is a tool in getting a specific match.
Yes, your contacts may have a fetish, but who cares? Enjoy with confidence, and if they start judging you on age, end the encounter. :cool2:
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To begin, I'd be very concerned at the thought of anyone having public gay sex in Bahrain, if that's where it's happening.
The Internet gives anyone many options on meeting first online, and then in a private setting. So I'd say to anyone: public (urban) sex isn't wise, and if it's bathroom-type stuff, you will, eventually, be noted by straight men or kids that just want to take a piss, and they don't deserve that.
As for age, rest assured that there are lots of guys – from your own age to just legal -- who have a thing for sex with older guys. Again, the Internet with the various dating/sexting apps, is a tool in getting a specific match.
Yes, your contacts may have a fetish, but who cares? Enjoy with confidence, and if they start judging you on age, end the encounter. :cool2:
Thanks for your concern.
Actually, Bahrain is the most open "Bangkok" of the Middle East. It's the weekend naughty getaways of the region. But it may not be as open as Bangkok, still plenty of don't ask don't tell.
Anyway, I lost my work visa sponsorship and was not working there now.I'm still conflicted about old age. Of course like most men, I'm worried about my health and looking wrinkled.
Nobody is comfortable about talking about it.At my age, I began servicing old men around my age. Unfortunately, most old men can't satisfy me. Still, they reminded me of myself. I'm just another old man in those old men sauna videos you find here.
That reminds me of young men/women married to sugar daddies, few will be sexually compatible.Then those with fetish for older men are mostly, well…let's just say not prime grade. They prey on old men like me because we are desperate and easy. We are expected to put up. Though the truth is unpleasant, I do put up because I'm desperate for sex. The unspoken undercurrent while I'm being screwed is always there that beggars can't be choosers.
"Ohh, your butts not wrinkly"
"Ohh, you're still tight.."
"Hey old man, I want to screw you.."I don't expect sympathy. It's the truth.
Just want to rant about it and I can do it here. -
I sympathize because I'm getting older too and I know I have to adjust to fewer sexual possibilities. The older I get, the more attracted I become to middle-aged and mature men, and the less interested I am in younger men. That process will continue.
So I find that my transition hasn't been too hard. I feel like I was pretty lucky in my younger years so I can't say that I "missed out".
Part of me actually feels relieved that the sexual pressure is receding. I don't feel the same need to impress other people or to "score".
I don't know what the world will be like after this pandemic, but up until this year, in any large city in the West or East Asia, there was no shortage of saunas where older guys have sex with one another and with younger "admirers". It's just a question of being realistic about our standards.
Bahrain is an interesting place … I visited a few years ago. It feels different from other Gulf countries but I can't explain exactly why.
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I sympathize because I'm getting older too and I know I have to adjust to fewer sexual possibilities. The older I get, the more attracted I become to middle-aged and mature men, and the less interested I am in younger men. That process will continue.
So I find that my transition hasn't been too hard. I feel like I was pretty lucky in my younger years so I can't say that I "missed out".
Part of me actually feels relieved that the sexual pressure is receding. I don't feel the same need to impress other people or to "score".
I don't know what the world will be like after this pandemic, but up until this year, in any large city in the West or East Asia, there was no shortage of saunas where older guys have sex with one another and with younger "admirers". It's just a question of being realistic about our standards.
Bahrain is an interesting place … I visited a few years ago. It feels different from other Gulf countries but I can't explain exactly why.
Acquaintances around my age are either giving up due to poor health or became desperate DOMs. They'll loiter around the public toilets or parks, molest anything in decent shape, gather at the oldies sauna to gossip.
I avoided this sauna before but recently I felt comfortable there. Sex there felt so casual like comfort food, nobody is better than anybody else. This old guy simply came up to me and requested to touch me. I took off my towel, opened my legs, he lubed me up and fingered me. Why ? Because he wanted to see someone leaking precum. His friend came by, they chatted casually and commented about me. I didn't cum and we all felt fine. It's as casual as a handshake.
But I'm conflicted about this later. Have my libido receded so much that it's not even considered sex? I want to be stimulated, penetrated and enjoy the sex. But I don't mind being penetrated but not stimulated enough to want sex. They neither. They got me a drink and we chat about mahjong and those good food nearby.
Am I dead to the passions of sex? Being the weekend, I knew one of my married fuck buddy will be prowling at this park and he don't have much time, it's get it quick or back home empty. Let's just say he's no fine looking guy but he's a mean fuck.
I was there in my loose shorts. He was glad to see me. Where I used to be conservative in keeping my clothes mostly on for wanting to bolt when there's danger, I didn't resist this time when he wanted me totally naked to play and stimulate me. I was secretly glad that he appreciated this old man's body. He took his time to stimulate me( old age slower to get aroused?) then he gave me a mean and varied fuck that made me felt so alive.I was satisfied but also worried that vanilla sex became so meh that I needed more hardcore sex. Is that desperation or I just need stronger stimulation to compensate for my waning sexual needs that I didn't want to let go ?
The gay scene is very covert and hidden amongst the straight scene at the hotel bars, gyms and private saunas. When they want your ass, they are very direct at the bars or grabbing you at the saunas. Sex is very primordial there because of the suppression yet closing one eye.
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"They'll loiter around the public toilets or parks, molest anything in decent shape, gather at the oldies sauna to gossip. I avoided this sauna before but recently I felt comfortable there. Sex there felt so casual like comfort food, nobody is better than anybody else."
- Very well put. I wish I'd thought of that. It really is "comfort food" - and sometimes that's all you need. The posturing and pretense are gone. Just guys enjoying some laid back intimacy. The kind of you thing you don't really appreciate when you're younger and everything is a competition.
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"I was satisfied but also worried that vanilla sex became so meh that I needed more hardcore sex. Is that desperation or I just need stronger stimulation to compensate for my waning sexual needs that I didn't want to let go ?"
- I too am much more interested in hardcore and fetish sex now than I used to be. Like you said, I need "stronger stimulation". But I don't think it has to do with compensation for aging. I think of it as graduating to more sophisticated possibilities. Of course I can still enjoy simple intimacy in a sauna or a toilet, but in my imagination I go alot further. The main reason I don't act on my deepest fantasies is because I remember AIDS in the 1980s and 1990s. There's a part of me that instinctively chooses self-preservation.
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(2)"I was satisfied but also worried that vanilla sex became so meh that I needed more hardcore sex. Is that desperation or I just need stronger stimulation to compensate for my waning sexual needs that I didn't want to let go ?"
- I too am much more interested in hardcore and fetish sex now than I used to be. Like you said, I need "stronger stimulation". But I don't think it has to do with compensation for aging. I think of it as graduating to more sophisticated possibilities. Of course I can still enjoy simple intimacy in a sauna or a toilet, but in my imagination I go alot further. The main reason I don't act on my deepest fantasies is because I remember AIDS in the 1980s and 1990s. There's a part of me that instinctively chooses self-preservation.
But then Aids also mean, if it's safe sex with condom, then anything goes.
Nowadays, I always carry a small pouch with wet tissues, condoms and lube ready with me. Keep myself clean down there where I can. Just explored few months ago, a off-beaten nearby forest truck rest stop 1 hour drive away, off the main highway and with the occasional horny truck drivers too busy to look for prostitutes in town centre. I stood in shady undergrowth waiting in my loose shorts.
The message was clear that I'm available for a good fuck. It was kinky to be taken in broad daylight, sometimes not even a few words said, just some grunts, and it's over in 15min. It was not memorable but somehow the quick and easy sex was worth the 1hr drive.
I explored the area to pick up all the condoms and tissues to avoid them giving us all away.
But there are few such trash, seems we are all careful, that's the reason I only heard about this place recently.Or maybe it's not such a busy spot. Sometimes it took so long to get one, I'll give up when even my mosquito repellant starts to lose effect.
There's one driver that I managed to hook up twice and I shamelessly asked for contact the 1st time. He laughed it off at my cluelessness. I know it's wham bang thank you man. But by asking the first time, that's how he remembered me the 2nd time.
However, when I asked a 2nd time, he seemed annoyed. I felt so cheap but shrugged it off. I'm starting to get shameless? I'm starting to do those shameless things that others were doing. Shit, am I turning into an old troll. Is old age and no time giving us excuses to be daring?
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Recently with the pandemic, everybody has to wear masks. People are told to stay home.
But then when my sexual urges came, I had to look for sex at our local cruising grounds. I was surprised that they are even more active than before. The anonymity from wearing masks made everybody more daring. Some were walking around naked from the neck down. Some were having public sex in daylight.
I normally don't do that. I'm not that kind of guy. I was telling myself.
But first I tried stripping naked, it was liberating to feel the cool wind on my nakedness in broad daylight. I felt my anonymity was well protected by my mask and big cap.Someone came and felt me up, it was nice. His wondering hands were soon massaging my butt cheeks and we knew what he wanted. I normally don't do that. I'm not that kind of guy. I kept telling myself. But when he wiggled a finger in, I couldn't help myself to stand wider and encouraging him to explore deeper. He went deeper and hit the spot and I was delirious.
We attracted an old man and he was standing there holding my cock and examining my leakyness. Before I knew it, the guy behind me was tearing open a condom and I kept telling myself I don't do that. I said no, I think. But it was muffled by my mask I rationalized. The old man was helping to lub me up, I pulled his hand off me and I kept telling myself I don't do that.
Still, he got me wet enough that when the guy grabbed me and reeled me in, he slid in effortlessly which told him about my false modesty. I said no, there's police. Half hearted and muffled by my mask. However his penetration was full of earnest sexual urges. After a few thrusts, I gave up the fakefull struggling and went limp in his arm.
By then, a small group smelt the sexual tension and gathered around us. It was an public orgy. The first guy must be overwhelm by the sexual decadence like me and released his load.
Before I could gather my breath, a bull of a big guy took over. He's the meanest and most desired by all in the orgy. I was fiddling with his cock and licking it even while I was being humped from behind. His sturdiness helped me to steady my feet.
He was mean and ferocious. I again had to grab onto another guy to steady myself. For that support, I had to lick his cock though my mind was occupied with the delirious fuck I'm receiving from that bull. The feelings swelled all over my nakedness. I stopped listening to my fake modesty.From then on, my mind was spinning and everything was a orgasmic blur. I collapsed onto my kneel and that old man used a soft bag to help cushion my knee. At that vulnerable and open position, I lost count of who had me for breakfast, lunch or dinner. Could be 3 or 4 guys if I'm being modest but…
Old man was my minder and carer. Or maybe he was that pimp who brought more guys to me. I was so openly debased that normally guys would stop wanting me. But still they didn't stop as old man was pulling them in by their cocks. It only stopped when even my knees gave way and I collapsed onto the ground. Then old man laid me onto the ground with a towel. I was a total sticky mess covered in bodily fluids that they released onto me.As soon as I recovered, my modesty returned and I turned quickly to put on my clothes. I got onto my bike and scooted away. How did I get myself into that? Normally I wouldn't. But I'm glad the mask protected my anonymity. Maybe this will become my new norm since I have nothing to lose or fear.
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Have thoughts somewhat related to the title, though it's mostly me being crazy.
I'm in my late 20-ies and wildly fluctuating between "Have to find a boyfriend before it's too late for starting" and "Ugh, it is already too late, gotta calm down". Visible gray in my hair doesn't make this better.
30 yo is not an old age for sex and relationships, but only if you're already somewhat experienced. For the first-timers it's somewhat different - I've missed the whole "exploration" phase due to some problems, which are still present and no sex is possible, and my first ever date was at 28 years (and it was a joke, though at least it didn't end in a disaster).
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@bibob said in Old age and desperation for sex before expiry date?:
To tell the truth, I'm now pass 60yo.
If I don't say it, nobody would know. But still I know it myself.One of my new fuck buddy saw my I.D. when we went to book a room with my I.D.
He looked surprised and while he complimented my body despite my age, his tone sounded condescending like he don't mind my age while fucking me as some sort of charitable act?I used to be quite conservative about sex. But slowly, I began exploring more. I hate to admit it myself, my hardon is slow and I began to enjoy being fucked. I used to hate the pain and merely tolerated it bc I had to at my previous job in the Middle East. But before I realized it, it grew on me.
I had always exercised and groomed my skin to look younger. Now white hair is showing and I dyed my hair.
After that incident, I suddenly felt an unease in my mind. He don't mind now but one day he would mind? It's like the party is over soon, should I grab all I can drink or eat before it's over.
I have a few gay mere acquaintances around my age and they were notorious DOM.To get to know them better and wondering maybe one day I'm just another DOM like them, when I chatted with them, I resignedly let them molest me, strip me naked and finger fucked me. It don't seem so bad that they could have their fun too.
Still, I began to explore the seedy part of me when I realised that wearing mask have liberating effect of anonymity. I began to explore public sex.
It's been so fun so far. But still I'm wondering if I'm being desperate doing things that I normally would never dare to think about. I'm too desperate to be seen as desirable? Where I never have this insecurity? Do I need to bother at all, just have fun?
These thoughts are inevitable. In my opinion, I don't think of it as getting desperate, as much as it is not giving a fuck about what people think as we age. Almost everyone I've talked to who lived a sheltered life, eventually loosen up as they get older, just because curiosity hits concerning those things we once vehemently resisted. On the other hand, speaking for myself, I do worry about being single as I age. It's a lot more work getting to know someone as an much older man, and it's more complicated too, as men are set in their ways, as well as overlapping generation gaps.
Not to sound like I'm on a moral horse, I still prefer not to do those things, just because of the safety factor. Also, it's incredibly different when you have sex with someone you love, a pose to having sex with an acquaintance. I know what I really want, and I know if I have sex outside of having a loving monogamous relationship, I'm just setting myself up for trouble. Mind you, it doesn't mean that I won't ever do it (we all have needs), I'm just least likely.
I had no idea how sometimes complicated and frustrating getting old can get (in terms of our interactions with other men). There are far too many of us that don't click (it seems) than those men that do.
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That's not me in the pic of course.
But after getting to know a bunch of old men at the cruisy park, we like to tease or molest each other openly.
We'll play strip poker or card games to pass time.
But we don't strip openly. We'll just record the scores for everybody till someone hit the max loss points.
Then we'll adjourn to the shady end of the park.Someone will stand outside as lookout.
The rest of us will strip according to the points lost.
The biggest loser will be the one totally naked. Then he has to chose a dare for the winner to toss a coin for.
Usually it's 1. to be finger fucked 2. fucked using a vegetable 3. let the winner cum on his face etc
Then we'll toss coins to see if he's lucky to escape or get one of those.After playing so many times, I too lost quite many times.
Being finger fucked, vege fucked and even cock fucked when the winner put up the added money on my ass for the taboo sex. He won, I got the money and they watched as I got royally screwed doggy style on the ground.Now the pandemic got worse here and it's being months since we are allowed to gather at the park. I kinda of missed the social bantering of a bunch of dirty old men.
On the other hand, the shady cruising of late nights never stop. Of course I'll bump into a few of them. However, any chatter will be frown upon since we all want to be as inconspicuous as possible.
Like I said before, the anonymity while wearing masks embolden many men to seek sex here. This being an obscure park of mostly old men, it used to be quite deserted.
But now that the other main stream avenues for sex are closed, they are invading here because old men here are easy meat.I for one could easily be screwed by 2 or more men each time. This being desperate times, they are not picky. Even while I was wet and sticky from the messy lube of the first fuck, another one didn't mind that I was 2nd hand used property. Occasionally they'll gang bang me together.
Oh boy, those DOMs who saw that will want my full confessions later when we can gather or they'll roast my ass.I've broken so many of my taboos these 2 years. One thing that us DOMs would like to tease each other,
"you are not getting any younger you know...get plucked by men while you still can, don't wait till your "flower" has wilted then you'll regret it. "
( in Chinese, we call our fuck hole "chrysanthemum flower", you get the idea
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Then they want full confessions..was he good, was he big, show us where he hit you inside, did he bite your boobs(tell tale red bite marks), did you get his phone number? ...
