Should I cum out ?! its too risky
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hi there, I really need your advice
I am 24 years old in a Muslim family, sadly they are old fashion, so for them, its time to me to get married
and as you can tell easily, I am gay, never liked a girl in my life, I kinda told my mom that I am bi, maybe she will back off a bit, but that didn't change her mind
she is saying, all you need to do is to have sex with her in the bed, you don't have to enjoy it ! :-[yup, and things are getting really hard around here, its not easy to move out and leave my family and my friend behind
so I am thinking, should I just tell my family that I am gay ? is this a better solution than being with a girl ? or its time to leave everything behind and search for my happiness
help … thx -
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I understand what you're going through and in my opinion if you're in a family that will never allow or even understand your sexuality, then you don't really need to come out because it won't help you in anyway! but you also don't have to run away from your family and friends all you need to do is to convince them that you're not into marriage! a lot of straight guys aren't into marriage it's not a big deal or you can tell them that you're not into having kids and it's hard for you to find a girl with the same interest. after all you're a man it's easier for us to stay single I don't think they will force you ?! try to focus on your study or job and show them that you're more focused on your future. also try to be independent as soon as possible so you can move out and live in your own place. once you do that they will not be able to control you anymore.. so fake it until you make it 
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she is saying, all you need to do is to have sex with her in the bed, you don't have to enjoy it ! :-[
[/quote]I am so sorry to say this but damn, talk about respect. That's terrible for a woman to say for another woman, the girl has feelings and isn't a fleshlight to just fuck.
What you could do is see how the situation is going with the girl, if you're lucky she might be lesbian so it works out for you both as a cover. ;D
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How do you think your family will react? Are you living at home with them?
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do all the stuff after u r financially independent
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Your only choice is to move out, then tell them.
They may shun you, but would you rather that or live a totally miserable life?
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You should never feel pressured to come out. It is your decision and yours alone. And honestly, there's never any real need to actually come out to your family… Especially if you think that it could put you in physical danger (and knowing the strict nature of orthodox Muslim communities, it almost certainly would). I would just say to instead work on building your individual financial situation up to the point where you could become 100% independent if you need to be, and then disconnect yourself from their influence entirely. Then you can come out to them if you really want them to know, but frankly, if you know they're going to react extremely negatively to it, then I would just say don't. I've never had any intention to come out to my extended family because I know the reaction will be very bad, so I basically just did what I described to you and I've never felt more free.
