Coming out to your straight friend
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I agree, maybe you should first find out what think about gays or how could affect your friendship.
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i came out to my straight guy best friend, he's the 2nd person I told about my sexuality. It was nerve wrecking. He always thought I'm the most carefree person with no problems in the world, little did he know I was a self-loathing, insecure, queer boy lol. His reaction, meant the world to me, as he totally accept me for who I am, even loved to talk about my gay stuffs as he also very open his girl stuffs.
My advice is, just tell him/her if the person meant the world to you. You won't regret anything.
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I came out to my guy best friend after coming out to my really close female friends. I was hesitant about coming out to him because I didn't know how he would react but it was just something I had to do. I was prepared to blow up everything or make things extremely awkward for the rest of our friendship but thankfully he took it well. He didn't even care about it. Now we're closer than ever, talking with no more boundaries.
I say before you come out to your straight friend, you should be prepared for anything to happen and if the worst happens then as cliche as it is, they weren't your friend to begin with. A true friend would accept you no matter what. Being gay doesn't define or suddenly change someone and if they can't see past that then..
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Bring it up casually.. when people are just sitting around chatting.. it is not a big deal, so should be discussed as such
Maybe and i'm old and jaded - but any person who rejects you, solely on sexuality was never a good friend and is not the kind of person I would want in my life anyway.
It is 2017 - in most (not all) countries - a real friend may be shocked or surprised but is not going to reject you - even if there initial reaction is to freak out, a real friend will come back around and deal with it.. because they are your friend
When i was younger, my dad taught me a lesson - he told me that if you lend $20 to a friend and you never see them again (because they avoid you because they don't want to pay it back) then it is the best $20 you ever spent - because they were never a real friend. Same applies.
In most cases, my parents NOT included lol,i told my friends/family casually - If i made it a huge drama then that reflected more in their reaction
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haven't ur closed friend ever notice something is "different" about you？ i mean. my friends will joke about my coming out… in a tentative way.. but never press too hard
