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      Squall41269 last edited by

      I'm going to be 36 in August. Virgin -  Never been out on date, I have a thyroid problem that makes it hard for me to loose weight, to top this all off, I have autism, which makes it really hard for me to meet people, and even if I could meet anybody there aren't any places around here to meet guys. I'm extremely lonely and afraid I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. Am I going to be? Any suggestions? Anybody want to talk?

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        funfire227 last edited by

        You won't if you don't want to… I kind of "get" what it feels to be isolated (and somewhat terrified) of going out and "put yourself out there"; but certainly I do believe (strongly) that it doesn't matter your shape or mental "normalness" (or anything really), there's always going to be someone out there for you. Really. It all comes down to having a mindset that works for you (it's harder than it sounds but not impossible).
        Personally, if I were to meet you or if I was looking to meet someone in general, I wouldn't mind any of the "differences" you listed above as long as our personalities are compatible. I'm more of a mental / emotional / spiritual attracted-to guy (sapiosexual at times) and I don't think I'm the only living one in the world (or universe... soon Mars... or Venus).
        Honestly: believe in yourself and things might start to happen.

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          Squall41269 last edited by

          Thanks, you really lifted me up there.

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            brianboru72 last edited by

            I couldn't agree more with funfire227.
            It's admittedly going to be much harder for you, than the average person. There are challenges you're dealing with but they aren't impossible to overcome. If I'm not mistaken- thyroid problems are treatable, and if you work hard enough you can lose some of the weight. Find an activity you enjoy- personally I took up swimming because that's the one activity I really look forward to. What's yours? Try walking a bit every day- bring some tunes and take some walks to help you get more fit.
            Now as to autism, I know it's a challenge for you to relate to people, but again, there are people with autism who manage to get into relationships. Don't fixate on being a virgin at your age, instead try to get into activities where you'll meet more people, build your confidence, be someone interesting and they will overlook your other shortcomings. Just get out there and keep trying.

            And lastly, you don't have to be in a relationship to deal with being lonely. Look around you and make friends with the people you work/study with. Smile and try to strike up a conversation. Sometimes the best cure for loneliness is just spending time talking to a friend or co-worker. Or even a family member. Best of luck to you!  :hug:

            Tell someone you love them today, because life is short.
            But shout it at them in German, because life is also terrifying and confusing.

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              Minerboh80 last edited by

              Why don't you give yourself a shot? Try to show your inner beauty. Your inner beauty can be shown with many ways.

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                obras62 last edited by

                @brianboru72:

                I couldn't agree more with funfire227.
                It's admittedly going to be much harder for you, than the average person. There are challenges you're dealing with but they aren't impossible to overcome. If I'm not mistaken- thyroid problems are treatable, and if you work hard enough you can lose some of the weight. Find an activity you enjoy- personally I took up swimming because that's the one activity I really look forward to. What's yours? Try walking a bit every day- bring some tunes and take some walks to help you get more fit.
                Now as to autism, I know it's a challenge for you to relate to people, but again, there are people with autism who manage to get into relationships. Don't fixate on being a virgin at your age, instead try to get into activities where you'll meet more people, build your confidence, be someone interesting and they will overlook your other shortcomings. Just get out there and keep trying.

                And lastly, you don't have to be in a relationship to deal with being lonely. Look around you and make friends with the people you work/study with. Smile and try to strike up a conversation. Sometimes the best cure for loneliness is just spending time talking to a friend or co-worker. Or even a family member. Best of luck to you!   :hug:

                I agree with both of these guys.

                I was 34 when I finally met someone that I could say "I love you" with real meaning.

                I had to let go and stop trying to be like someone else, be yourself.
                I believe that there is someone for everyone and I agree that it is not always easy to find them, but a positive mind can go a long way in making life easier.

                Good luck

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