Gay people are now more likely to be in open relationships than stay monogamous
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Not sure how I feel about this but to each his own.
http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/gay-people-likely-open-relationships-stay-monogamous/#gs.ktRjsxY
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To be honest, I had this conversation just yesterday, he asked me what my position was on this subject and I told him I'm pretty much against it, 3 years ago I made a threesome with someone I wasn't absolutely sure I was in love… but that was the case, and I pretty much blamed myself for quite a long time for taking things to that point in order to realize how much I cared for this person, I wouldn't make the same mistake again if I'm given the choice, my boyfriend is 10 years younger than me, yes, I know, but it just happened, and it's a good relationship, we don't even use condoms anymore so no way in hell I'm going to risk that, for the time being, my answer no and I wouldn't advice anyone to really but really think for quite a long time before doing that.
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I myself Will NEVER agree to an open relationship .
If my future boyfriend wants to do it , then i think that would be our end since pretty much we'll be wanting different things !! -
Define open relationship for you both.
We can enjoy together with some guy but always TOGETHER. We don't agree and don't like at all to be with someone else alone.
But that's comes from trust, and we always have secure sex with others.
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My partner and I tried having 3somes and even a few "side deals" where we had 1 on 1 sex with someone else as a one time thing. We trusted each other, and it worked, but we found that we were happier when we just stayed monogamous, and that we really are enough for each other sexually. So I know from my own experience that it can go in the other direction as well.
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Both of us believe in monogamy and an open relationship is an NO NO for us.
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I will only be in relationships where we both have sex with others. Sex is just a thing you do for fun.
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Open relationships are for spineless pussies!
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don't care other person do. maybe they need a family or get a child, they just lack of responsibility what they are doing looks very childish. in my place if a man married he will only love his own family. open relationship is for pitiful guys. when they are old they will get nothing with them
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there's nothing particularly noble or morally upstanding about monogamous relationships, just let people live how they want to
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Human beings were never monogamous. It's only been a thing for the past few hundred years or so. Very few species in nature are monogamous.
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Nope. My boyfriend and I prefer to just stay monogamous. Just the two of us. We couldn't bear it if we have to be in open relationship with someone else. For me, especially, that's just like, unfaithful. You may happen to share your love not just with your lover, but for someone else as well and that's not okay for me. Best friends, okay, I can accept that, but not beyond that.
It's easy for someone to be non monogamous, but only a few can stay with the same partner for their whole life, I think. That's pretty said if I think about it.
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Human beings were never monogamous. It's only been a thing for the past few hundred years or so. Very few species in nature are monogamous.
Very few species in nature are documented as experiencing emotional intimacy, either. Just because other species behave a certain way doesn't mean humans need to follow suit.
I've done casual relationships before, but personally I've found monogamy to be more rewarding.
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But what are you supposed to do if you just can't find someone with strong sexual chemistry. I can spend another 20 years looking for a good match. It just might not happen. I'm so confused. Almost all my relationships have ended because one of use were not attracted to another enough or the sex wasn't good. Otherwise we would have stayed together.
Maybe an open relationship is better than staying single forever??
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Monogamy is a social construct, like much of modern society. It's largely designed to serve heterosexual-dominant society due to the vast inequality of numbers.
It's fine if you feel a need for one-on-one exclusivity, but it's nothing short of puerile to insult those who don't see relationships the same way or don't operate that way. Not everyone operates in an exclusive manner, and two people is not the be-all and end-all of a relationship dynamic.
The most important thing is honesty and communication. If more gay relationships find it more realistic and honest to simply maintain open relationships to function, then I personally find that an enlightened perspective. We don't need to ape the heterosexual and judeo-christian-influenced mainstream to function. It's ridiculous that some never think outside of it.
Sex is a thing to do like board games or charades. To end a relationship that is otherwise strong because you don't have great sexual chemistry, yet you're not willing to allow each other to fulfill yourselves sexually with other people…seems a questionable approach. I would recommend examining yourselves individually to figure out your true identity and what you really want in a relationship.
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gays are more into this.. gays can have sexual feelings for so many people but commitment may be different from them
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I will only be in relationships where we both have sex with others. Sex is just a thing you do for fun.
Totally agree! It's a shame my boyfriend doesn't agree with that
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I'm a monogamist. I belive in sharing your love and your intimacy with just the person you are in a relationship with.
