IS IT SO WRONG TO CAM AFTER YOU ARE IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP?
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I WAS SINGLE FOR 10 YEARS. I GOT INTO CAMMING AND I QUITE ENJOY IT. I LIKE TO SHOW OFF. IT TURNS ME ON AND EXCITES ME. FROM THE BEGINNING I TOLD MY BOYFRIEND ABOUT IT. HE WAS COOL WITH IT UNTIL ONE DAY I WAS CHATTING WITH SOMEONE AND I CLOSED THE WINDOW AS HE CAME IN. I TOLD HIM I WAS JUST CHATTING, WELL HE GOT ALL BENT OUT OF SHAPE SAYING I SHOULDN'T BE DOING THAT AND THAT ITS JUST FOR FANTASY SO WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO THEM? AND EVER SINCE HE'S BEEN THREATENING TO LEAVE ME IF I DO IT ALONE ANYMORE. I CAN DO IT WITH HIM, BUT NOT BY MYSELF. I THINK IT'S RIDICULOUS AND HE SAYS IT HURTS HIM IF I DO IT? I DON'T WANT TO BE INSENSITIVE, BUT I JUST DON'T SEE WHAT THE PROBLEM IS. I HAVE NEVER MET ANYONE I CAM WITH AND NEVER WILL.
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Personally I wouldn't do it and I would feel bad if my partner did it, but if both people agree then ok…
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Compromise is an important part of any relationship. It sounds like you need to sit down and have a calm, reasoned discussion about it. And in the end, since your relationship is still new, you need to decide which is more important- your partner or you cam activities.
Just remember that what you're dealing with is his feelings- while you may feel it's no big deal, clearly he feels differently and you can't just make him feel the way you do.
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When you're the one enjoying it, its no big deal. Put yourself in his shoes. If he was doing something with other people and you didn't agree with it, you'd probably get a little bent too. If you need to have the attention of people aside from a friendly outing (because caming is really like online hookups with or without nudity), you might want to evaluate whether you really want the relationship you're in.
Also, I've been there on his side of the story and it is usually an easy and tempting lead in to a meeting, which tends to lead to something more.
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That's between you and your partner. Some people are OK with it, and others are not.
I had an ex that loved to go on cam and go into chat rooms and I was fine with it as it's not like he ever physically met up with anyone he cammed with as they were in different countries and he would just go on to jerk off and be an exhibitionist. I also would cam as well with people in different areas and it was something we both were fine with.
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If he doesn't have a problem with it as long as you do it together then just do it together? It doesn't seem like a big deal to me.
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It seems like you are playing with fire, do you still love him? Is everything OK? I know everything happens in fantasy land for the time being but what happens if one day you chose to go a bit further? Will it be too much? Will you feel any guilt at all?
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I honestly don't see why it's such a big deal. As long as there is no intention of meeting up with others, and you don't put more importance on it over your relationship, then by no means should he feel remotely threatened. All you're doing is online exhibitionism, and interacting with others just because, nothing more, nothing less. If this is something you enjoy and feel comfortable with, then by no means should you ever sacrifice what makes you happy, for just to satisfy anyone else, even if they are your bf/partner. With that said, I do think a conversation should be had, between the two of you, and get things sorted out, before anything else.
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I suppose it depends on what you're chatting about with these people. Your boyfriend more than likely sees this as emotional affairs, at the least. If you don't see how showing off to randoms on the internet and then chatting with them can upset your boyfriend, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship. If my boyfriend did that, I'd be more than a little pissed. And it's not even like an open relationship, because that is just sex and many people can and do detach sex from an emotional relationship; that's not really the case when you mix sexual matters with emotional matters, which it sounds like you're doing.
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If you respect your partner and he doesn't like you doing that, you shouldn't. If that is asking too much of you, then end the relationship, cam cam cam it up, and/or find someone who will cam with others as well to date….maybe if he cams more than you, you might change your attitude.
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i dont it's wrong
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I think it's not even about camming,your boyfriend thought that he caught you redhanded,since you acted so guilty shutting the cam down.
Anyone would have thought you were flirting online and probably going to cheat afterwards.
And honestly,if yopu had a satisfying sex life in your relationship,you wouldn't prefer a display when you have someone in the flesh available.
How would you feel if instead of making love to you your partner preferred to jizz to an image? -
if you have your partners consent then its find. bring up the conversation and ask. if you want to be with him and he doesn't want you camming then don't cam. relationships are give and take and you both have to give on some stuff to make the relationship work.
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You don't need to be in a relationship. I had a partner once that was on several phone sex hook up apps. One day he was in the shower and his cell phone was on the coffee table, his mom was calling so I decided to pick up the phone and talk to her. After the call and as I was putting down the phone…it made a growing sound, I went "what the hell is this?" So I picked up the phone and noticed that it was a sexual message from one of the phone apps. I had no clue he was on them and when I approached him about it he became upset and said he was just looking for friends. I told him if you want friends find another outlet other than sex hook up sites. He respected the relationship and me and decided that what he had at home was good and offered for me to look at his phone at any given time. It was a trust issue for sure for me but it got worked out. If you respect your partner and the relationship don't cam anymore without him there. Shutting it down when he walked in seems "guilty" to me. I don't blame him for being upset. Why don't you jizz with him together, if you are taking time to cam and jerk off with someone else online...to me that is just another form of cheating because you are doing it with someone else and not your partner. :afr:
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You don't need to be in a relationship. I had a partner once that was on several phone sex hook up apps. One day he was in the shower and his cell phone was on the coffee table, his mom was calling so I decided to pick up the phone and talk to her. After the call and as I was putting down the phone…it made a growing sound, I went "what the hell is this?" So I picked up the phone and noticed that it was a sexual message from one of the phone apps. I had no clue he was on them and when I approached him about it he became upset and said he was just looking for friends. I told him if you want friends find another outlet other than sex hook up sites. He respected the relationship and me and decided that what he had at home was good and offered for me to look at his phone at any given time. It was a trust issue for sure for me but it got worked out. If you respect your partner and the relationship don't cam anymore without him there. Shutting it down when he walked in seems "guilty" to me. I don't blame him for being upset. Why don't you jizz with him together, if you are taking time to cam and jerk off with someone else online...to me that is just another form of cheating because you are doing it with someone else and not your partner. :afr:
Hook up apps are quite popular nowadays..
Porn stuff everywhere..
If somebody cheats or doesn't, has to do with the person!
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Yes I have come to find out hook-up apps are quite popular. Honestly I think they are despicable in my opinion. I know for a fact they have caused many relationships to come to an end. I understand the principal for the apps if you are single or in an open relationship, but the problem is when you are in a monogamous relationship and using them, you are right it is the person. But I have and will never use the stupid app.
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I WAS SINGLE FOR 10 YEARS. I GOT INTO CAMMING AND I QUITE ENJOY IT. I LIKE TO SHOW OFF. IT TURNS ME ON AND EXCITES ME. FROM THE BEGINNING I TOLD MY BOYFRIEND ABOUT IT. HE WAS COOL WITH IT UNTIL ONE DAY I WAS CHATTING WITH SOMEONE AND I CLOSED THE WINDOW AS HE CAME IN. I TOLD HIM I WAS JUST CHATTING, WELL HE GOT ALL BENT OUT OF SHAPE SAYING I SHOULDN'T BE DOING THAT AND THAT ITS JUST FOR FANTASY SO WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO THEM? AND EVER SINCE HE'S BEEN THREATENING TO LEAVE ME IF I DO IT ALONE ANYMORE. I CAN DO IT WITH HIM, BUT NOT BY MYSELF. I THINK IT'S RIDICULOUS AND HE SAYS IT HURTS HIM IF I DO IT? I DON'T WANT TO BE INSENSITIVE, BUT I JUST DON'T SEE WHAT THE PROBLEM IS. I HAVE NEVER MET ANYONE I CAM WITH AND NEVER WILL.
I have been in a relationship for well over 30 plus years now and from what I have observed in mine and a lot of other long term relationships are that they started off being open and almost definitely non monogamous.I totally believe men wether straight or gay are not supposed to stick to one partner.It's only natural to seek different partners.As for marriage ect(gay or straight)I find the whole concept ridiculously silly and was developed in order to stop men wandering.If I or my partner get horny,we tell each other that were off to the sauna or were off to fuck a certain guy that we've contacted on the internet.We just make sure that for safety reasons that the address were going to is genuine..ect.The bottom line is..Be honest with each other right away with EVERTHING.I honestly have never met anyone who is in a long term monogamous relationship.
