No one seems to want relationship these days….
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Seems very few guys actually want relationships, its just sex only.
I would love to have a nice bf and sex is a bonus…
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NOTE: I don't know you in real life, nor have I had any contact with you here. This means my comments can only be generalizations.
A lot of people want relationships. In fact, I'd say that most do.
You have to consider the environments you are searching for this relationship. Night clubs are not really the places to find one, just a fuck behind a dumpster (skip).
Another obvious answer is; how desperate are you for a relationship? That shows through as well. Oddly, though not surprisingly, you are more likely to get admirers when you are in a relationship than when you are looking for one. This is because you aren't in the desperate search mode. Don't be the woman (not calling you a woman, just using the scenario) that turns up on her first date wearing her wedding dress and yammering on about all the baby names she wants for her kids?
Here are some direct comments after looking at your website;
None of your pictures have you smiling, at least not real smiles. That's a turn off.
You should tidy up your website. Sadly, people will use any typos to automatically label you as "thick" and therefore dismiss you.
You seem hostile toward what you call the "gay scene". Most gays are not part of the media created gay scene, like you see in QAF or other series and movies. The real gay scene is pretty harmless and vanilla; ie going to movies and dinner with a group of friends.
You are 39, but you want someone a minimum of 4 years younger than you? This is so the 2 of you can experience life together? I don't see what life experiences you and an 18yo can do together that you can't do with a fellow 39yo. You want a young boyfriend, that is all there is to it. Experiencing life together isn't a real issue. I'm sure you'd agree if you were being honest.
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I have a lot of faith in the online dating scene. It gives you a "safe" mode to get to know and chat with people with like-minded interests. For example, there's a forum here for leather/bear, chubby, anime/manga, and the like. If you're interested in these things, then simply post in those forums, join discussions, and learn about other people that way. Then take the discussion out of GT, and move to some other chat medium which is a bit more real time and doesn't require you to keep your GT site open all day long (for privacy issues, maybe).
then you go out and date and see if the connection online can translate to a real connection. I don't go out to clubs, or at least not to gay clubs. Clubs i've gone to once or twice but i'm no night owl so i tend to sleep early. Having said that, I don't actually go out to the gay scene, and keep only a few close gay friends who i can talk to anytime.
Here's a tip. Be honest with yourself, and be honest with others. If you're after sex, say so. If you're after a certain kind of relationship, say so. It can be as simple as putting your preferences online by saying: I would like to be with a guy who can appreciate Lonesome Dove, Cold Mountain, or simply sipping hot chocolate in front of a fireplace in the winter. I would also like to travel.
These are things that make you more real in the eyes of anyone, and you would be well positioned to meet potential friends, at the very least.
I met my boyfriend online (although if marriage were legal here, i would have proposed already) through a gay networking site. We've been together for 32 months already.
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Well, that is quite common in gay scnes maybe all over the world..
I had been relatioship about 8years and devorsed it..
Now beeing single several years, but my limit it quite high.I wanna my bf somewhere in Africas countries, who is ready to move in here and beeing my man..
He should also be big in down
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I met my bf through instagram, and we've been together a little over a year now.
To be completely honest I consider myself lucky, because I found someone I really love, regardless of my ideals. In other words I can say that he's not exactly the man of my dreams, and I think that applies to him also, but still, I consider him to be the love of my life and fortunately we're in sync in that matter.
I scanned through the OP's website and find that the part "what i look for in a potential boyfriend", is mostly the reason why it's so hard to find a relationship these days. I agree, to the user raphjd when he says that most people are looking for a relationship. The reason why I think it's so difficult for people to find one, is mostly because they are way too focused on their own selves, "what i look for" "What I want" "what I need", and usually those personal demands are quite delusional and unreasonable. People are not really opened to others, they don't allow themselves to be "enchanted" by whatever does not fit their ideal. Before I got to the relationship I'm in now, I went through a number of attempts in which this was clearly the case from the counterpart.
The search for a boyfriend, has become like shopping, and people like products. One little thing people find about someone and it's enough to disregard them as someone who could make you really happy.
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The truth is that people do not want a relationship because a relationship needs a lot of work as well, and that is really tiring in our time. Of course when people reach a certain age they consider a relationship a lot more than they did.
