Online Dating websites, yay or nay?
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In your own experiences, do you find online dating websites to be as good as they are made out to be? I can definitely see the convenience, but is it really 'better' than traditional relationship making processes?
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If my husband and i want a threesome we use online dating. So yay.
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I wish my answer was 'yay', but I'm not lucky with them.
What are the sites that you use and like? -
Nay
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I'd like to say YAY and possibly feel like it, depending on the site. But, for the most part I'm driven to say NAY. If social media and online dating sites were better governed where members could be held responsible for their behaviour (discrimination, harassment, bullying, and right down un-Canadian where I'm at) and were unable to hide behind their avatar, then I'd be YAY YAY YAY all the way.
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For dating, definitely Nay… it's hard to get to know people online.
For finding people to hook up with, Yay. It's so much easier to find sex on Growlr than IRL. -
I think it depends on the person you found on the website, there are always some guys who are really looking for serious relationship and i think it might be a good start to know them…
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It depends.
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So far most of the guys I have dated have been from meeting online. It seems to be the norm for me anyway. I don't go to bars or other similar places to meet guys because I'm not much of a drinker. It would be nice to meet someone through friends but it's not likely.
Most social apps are not for dating at all. -
Having done online dating for the past 10 years (with no luck), I would honestly say stay away. I know that physical attraction is a huge thing in gay relationships, but when people are looking online (myself included), there is almost an instinct to move onto the next profile if the person doesn't look attractive to you. And lets face it… most people do not have outstanding physical qualities. And if they do have outstanding physical qualities, a good amount of people these days will look at the pictures and think they are being catfished.
Getting messages is nearly impossible. I have had a few where we have exchanged messages, but you never get a sense of if they are just being friendly, or if they really are interested. I guess there is a system here that no one has figured out.
Additionally, after you have been on multiple sites for awhile, you tend to run into the same people. I think everyone is just aimlessly running around, trying to find someone, but doesn't know what to do.
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for me, right now, it's a nay: i've been at it a while, and though it's a convenient introduction, the most common result or drawcard of 'online dating' seems to be casual sex – which can be great fun, but my slutty phase is winding down.
i've had dating profiles for almost a decade, of varying descriptions (initially it was innocent: okcupid & gaydar), but more recently it was more on the sexy side (dudesnude & squirt). i've used grindr for about 5 or six years, too. almost all of my profiles are deleted at the moment. meanwhile, it's pride week. gonna see how i go without! -
oh please, in todays world it's basically your only option.
I don't know about you but he idea of meeting someone at a bar seems ludicrous to me. I don't talk to anyone lol
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I've been around the block a few times, so have no illusions. Most people on the Gaydars Squirts, and Scruffs of this world are there for a quick shag at best, or a sneering browse at worst. So I have come to a few, perhaps jaded, conclusions.
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If you are more than 40, beware; there's no fool like an old fool. Those winking twinks, gagging for your favours, are seldom what they seem.
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If you are looking for a long term relationship, skip the sites. Chat to people at the bus stop, corner shop, or join a club. If you share an activity (stamp collecting, motorbike racing, scuba diving etc.) you are more likely to click.
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95% of datesite users cannot accommodate. Why? Partners? Wives? Lodgers? Stranger Danger? So, if you are one of those who can you will become instantly attractive to others. Beware; inviting others (unknown others) into your house is a risk. Do some research before inviting. Perhaps meet them in a public place first. Take a photo of them, their car and anything else that could identify them later if things turn nasty. If you do let them into your place, make it tidy. Hide all the expensive stuff away. Remove temptation of that sort.
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Be realistic. There will be some people who mess around. They may agree to meet, but make an excuse just before the time. Work, the wife, family crisis, sick dog. The list is endless. So you reschedule only to discover that the day before they caught the cold from hell. So it goes. Be kind, some of it may be true, but only allow three no shows before you quit that avenue. If they just don't turn up, leaving you high and dry, then call it a day just then. There is no excuse for such bad manners.
So, in conclusion, the answer to the question, Dating websites? Yay or nay? I have to say yay, but don't expect much more than an occasional no strings shag and be prepared for some odd timewasting folk.
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