How do you live life after coming out?
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Share your thoughts.
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TRY TO BE NORMAL AS BEFORE
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My life is the same as before.
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Enjoy being open about who you love.
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just be yourself, people must like you for what you are.
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happy
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Take one day at a time and enjoy each day as if it was my last.
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Is someone treating you differently than how they used to before?
Or are things just different because of expectations you have built up in your own mind haven't quite worked out the way you planned?
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I pretty much got as faggy as could be for a few years. Bleached blond hair, tight cute clothes, keeping up waifish body, started acting a lot more effeminate, doing my nails, and waxing a lot of body hair.
I was afraid of doing much anything to show how I was attracted to men before I came out, and then afterward it just felt like fuck it. I got into feeling more relaxed than ever just working myself into this effeminate role, which actually made me a lot more comfortable in the bedroom. Previously I was a lot more nervous about being a bottom, I had played with toys for ages and enjoyed it immensely, but after everything I just found myself feeling as comfortable as could be drooling over a man's cock and didn't get so paranoid about making any noise during sex. Beforehand I felt like I had to hold in any sort of noise so I didn't just sound weird, and now I just feel fine squealing a bit if I feel like it as I don't feel like it makes me less of a person now.
Though I suppose I did have this short period of wondering if I was just acting like a bottom in the bedroom because I had this image of being gay as meaning you just took dicks in the ass, but that sort of concern pretty much vanished after like a week and finally feeling comfy getting laid with whoever resulting in me getting split open by a couple hot guys that took away any fantasies I had that I might ever be interested in topping.
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It's so long since I came out - over thirty years - that it's hard to remember life before. I live the same way I always did, but I'm not expending energy on checking what I say, in case I let something out about my sexuality.
For me, life out of the closet is way better than life in it. That's not to say I haven't had my fair share of hard times because of people's reactions, but I learned quickly the best way to deal with them and for me, the positives far outweigh the negatives.
