What would you do if…..
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If you saw someone in person that you had saw on a gay dating site that you found attractive. Even though you have never had any conversations online or anything. Would you say something to them then, contact them on the website and tell them that you saw them in person and wanted to say something. In other words how would you handle the scenario.
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I finally get to tell my story.
I use chaturbate, and a couple of months back I was watching a local'ish' straight guy go through his none wanking routine, for want of a better description, where he basically just sat and chatted with his fans. The topic got around to how he would react if one of his male fans walked up to him in public, he replied 1) If I was with family I wouldn't want anyone to walk up to me and even say hi, 2) If I was with certain friends it would be ok, so long as it didn't get freaky, 3) If I was on my own it would be fine, just don't expect us to be going for a drink or for anything to happen, remember I'm straight and only do this to get off and earn a little cash.
I didn't know exactly where he was, but knew it was pretty close and that he most likely shopped in the same towns as me, so typed "Well I haven't seen you in Durham, but will keep an eye out and say Hi if I do." He laughed and said I don't go there often but feel free to say hello if I'm on my own. Loads of people were also chatting and his chat show went on for a few hours covering various subjects, to me he was hot, sexy, but also really nice guy, etc etc etc, he also has a great cock and puts on a good jack off show.
So about 2 weeks later I decided I needed a new hard drive and offered to take my Mum shopping at the same time. We went for groceries first, then to a couple of other shops she wanted to visit before finally arriving at the computer store. We had a quick look around at stuff before I headed over to the components isle closely followed by Mum. She went down one end, while I walked up the next isle to come back down the other side and meet her. As I turned the corner I could have died, my Mum was walking towards me, but knelt down looking at the drives was none other than my Chaturbate hunk. Although Mum knows I'm gay, I could hardly strike up a conversation and have to introduce him to Mum as the guy I wanked over on the internet. I can't describe how gutted I was, nor how I felt, It was like "first Love" my head was ponding, my heart racing, I must have gone as red as a stop sign. I couldn't bring myself to look him in the face, but managed a couple of sneaky crotch glances to see his nice bulge when he stood and I knelt to check out the drives. I know Mum would have noticed I was acting odd, but she didn't say anything so, My hunk got what he wanted and went to pay, I delayed slightly then pickup mine and went to pay, thank god he had already left.
That night I told my partner, and we both had the biggest laugh in ages. The funny/sad side is, had I not taken Mum shopping I wouldn't have bumped into him as I'd have been to the store and gone long before him, but having Mum there prevented me from being able to even say Hi.
Anyway couple of days later he was online again, so before his room filled up and he started wanking, I asked him how the new drive was going. He went offline straight away, I was like OMG should I have said anything. After about 5 minutes he came back and sent me a PM, he had left because of me but more from the shock that I knew about the drive than anything else. I explained I couldn't say Hi because of Mum and asked if he had seen me, he said yes and the lady with the walking stick. We then pm'd for over an hour while he wanked off for the rest of the room, chatting about life and stuff. I knew nothing would come of it as did he, but it finished with him shooting his load and a final PM saying next time say Hi! I'm still living in hope of that next time, but will I say Hi, who knows.
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Thanks for the input.
The reason I posted this question is because I had a similar incident. I've seen two guys from grindr out and about.
One of them works at a nearby Walmart and since he was at work I just said hi like any other customer would. He's cute but a little to young for a guy my age. We have never talked online either.
The other is a security guard that comes thru at my job. The first time that I saw him I thought he looked familiar, then I figured it out later when I was online. He stopped and talks to me and some of the other guys, but we have never talked online. He doesn't know that I know because I don't have a face pic on my profile. He talks a lot to one of my co workers, he actually asks for him most times he comes thru. The crazy thing about it is that one of my other co workers was telling me that the guy(security) is gay. I have a crush on him but he is married, but yet he seems to know the guard is gay. Also he seems to be giving me little hints that he might want to hook up with me ( but that could be me wishful thinking). -
The big difference here is that my guy is straight, jacking off just to get off and make a little cash, not looking for any hook ups not even with female watcher, but said he didn't mind if someone said Hi when he was alone. So he made it clear nothing could or would happen, but he was ok if someone saw him in real life.
Your guys are both on Grindr, which is basically a gay hook up site. Instead of speaking to them face to face, can't you Grindr message them next time you see them first to see how they react. It will show them that you are very close and may help to break the ice for you to go say hi in person, then see if and what happens.
Personally for me, I would say (if I did use) that I was using grindr as a filter and even thou I may have a face pic on there, that it was only so someone could see what I looked like, and not so if they saw me out and about that they could just walk upto me and expect anything.
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Ive actually had this happen to me before. Recognized a guy from grindr at a train wait and striked up conversation with him. nothing really came of it but it was still pretty cool.
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Honestly…I would just approach them as any other person and make no comments about seeing them in Grindr or whatever.
Why? because people tend to act different when they want to get laid -they want to impress- This is a fine chance to see how they really are, which is good if you wanna see how well he would be in a potential relationship either friendly or romantic.
If you just wanna have sex with them, use the effing Grindr already.
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i'd say nothing