Feeling Used
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Okay, so I have this friend who is "straight" (in his mind), and every time he ventures into a sexual adventure that might lead to actually being penetrated by another man, he calls me and asks me to tag along. Now in the past I have had no issues with going but the more I thought on it the more I started to feel used. This guy isnt ugly, but he isn't really what the guys we've seen together have been really into and this is per them. But, they normally agree to mess around after they see me or he tells them he has a friend. Im not sure if I like being put out like that. Am I being taken advantage of or is this just something i'm thinking too hard about? What do you guys think?
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Sounds like he has not decided which road he wants to take. Also it sounds like he wants to maybe have something with you but doesn't know how to go about asking. You didn't mention whether you were a top or bottom or versatile but I would think about confronting him about it all. See how he feels and if he's someone that you wouldn't mind dating then prep him for insertion. -
they normally agree to mess around after they see me or he tells them he has a friend
What's key here is the part you've de-emphasized, which is the role that your presence plays in getting them to agree to stay, after being apparently disappointed by your homely friend. You are their consolation prize.
As for your friend, what he lacks in looks he makes up for in networking―being the better, more connected, bonhomie of your pair. But alas, even that payoff is anhedonic for him, in that he does 100% of the legwork finding these guys and reaps only 50% of the attention―if even that―and thus not the full reward for his efforts. Who was it that was feeling used again? Cause you might have to clarify that, like what it is youre doing after theyve agreed to stay. You didn't specify, but my guess is, it isnt playing metal gear solid in the next room. But then again, hes is getting something at least, and I guess something is better than nothing.
In any event, I'd suggest not rocking the boat you two are in. You never know how good you have something until its gone.
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Well, if you feel like you are being used… then quit. Actually, it is only you who can feel it. But based from what i am reading, it looks like you liked it too.
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i agree with the person above
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Maybe u like him coz ur always saying yes to his favors! hmmmmmm
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As an adult male it is in your control to be used or not. And the question is what do you get out of the situation.
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I haven't seen it as being used if a chap want's to arouse attention from somebody by peering me.
Hmm but now I have mixed feelings
oh well I wasn't after my chaps nor they're arousables. -
If you like the idea of being used (sm, bdsm-ish): Go on and get your kicks out of it. If not: Stop right now. You are his friend, yes, but that doesn't mean you have to get him laid. Asking someone to participate in a threesome just so oneself can get some action is not a typical favour one can expect to get granted.
