Coming WAY too fast! r

[tigerrawr]

Okay so apparently am I destinied to just not getting what I want.

I have always been really submissive, I loved being bossed around and fucked hard.

Anypoop, lately Iv'e only met submissive guys for some reason, So I just dominate them and fuck them wild and they love it. I basically do what I would love someone to do to me.
It's fun to be dominant and wild aswell, but at the bottom of my heart I am no leader.  Versatile is the shit  :love: But there seems to be a drought in passionate top guys who are also cute and not total egos.

So I asked the passive submissive guys Iv'e met if they wanted to fuck me.  I missed it!  Iv'e also hinted a lot to me liking a wild dominance session. Which one guy responded positivly to:

But… he gets it in, not a big cock, but I like it. starts carefull,  "yeah I'm ok"  Just start already!
Then he fucking COMES! after like... 7 thrusts. wtf.  even with a condom on!  It was like a 30 second sessions where half of it was just finding the right position, asking me stupid questions, and putting the dick inside

And this happened THRICE, with three different persons!

Wtf is wrong with people, don't they know how to have sex? It's such a turn off seeins a guy come before he even started.  I mean those were the WARM UP thrusts.

Now this guy, I love when he eats my neck so I hint at him doing that while I wank, but he is so distant, keeps looking another way, he is not intimate, I have to push him against me and arrange him. And Im getting soft, and hes like "I think you are shy!" and in my head I'm like "no you just suck at sex" but I say "nah...  you just a bit far away"  So I have to close my eyes and think of someone else.  And he keeps saying things outside of sex, like that there is a road nearby (so what, you didnt think of that when you were hard!) . After Im done I feel so used...  It was really really bad.

Now the other guy which is the main focus of this story:

he is 20years, 5y younger then me, he is a really good bot and a kisser, he can just take everything, biting hard even.  and I like him a lot outside of sex, he just cute and I care about him.

I asked him to fuck me  (after I gave him his first ever anal orgasm AND edging orgasm)  So he basically came twice already (I came once in his ass) but it was an hour later and we got horny again so I wanted to see how he would be.  But fucking same shit happens.
How sensitive IS his dick????!
Now after he gets embarressed and cute, and he's all like "you are so good in bed you make me come so much, and I'm all noob"

So I can't really scold him.
And I'm in love with him.
But I want to get fucked, is that so much to ask for?

Wtf do I do? Just make him practice? I thought making him come first would make him last longer...

[johndolive]

When I was 20, I used to be a total sub bottom. I couldn't fuck a guy arse, and everytime I tried I blew my load after a few seconds. But it changed when I met a really nice guy who was really patient and a wonderfull bottom, with a round bubble butt. He mad me fuck him and as he understood that I was too easily discharging, he always asked me to go slowly, to stop a while, then go back again. So I kind of learned to detect the moment when my excitation level was going out of control (the orgasm peak) just to avoid it, staying in the "plateau phase" and stop moving to come back to the arousal phase (it is classicaly considered that there are three excitation phases in orgasm : arousal, plateau, peak). While you enter the peak phase, it's almost impossible not to ejaculate (except if you train reaaaaally hard or were given that incredible gift of being multiorgasmic by your fairy Godmother).
That guy also showed me how I could control a bit my erection by working my muscles. He began by pressing on the spot between my balls and ass where I could feel the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle (the pelvic floor muscle), and made me contract and relax it. I did it a few times a week while stroking my cock during a few months. And this little exercise really improved my ability to restrain from ejaculating.
So basically, I think that working on "not rushing to the peak phase of orgasm" by just letting the excitation going to the "plateau phase" (2nd phase of excitation, the one just before orgasm) and then coming back to the "arrousal phase" (by stopping the movements) and also gaining control of the PC muscle by practicing the kind of exercise I described are the two best recommandations I could make, apart from the psychological aspect (which is even more important) of being really patient with your friend.