Coming Out Reactions
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Describe the moment when you came out to a relative.
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A nightmare.
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It was ok with my mum but I think a lot depends on the place (country, state, city) where you live. I mean, I live in London now and saying "I'm gay" doesn't even feel like coming out anymore.
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For some it's great for others it's a nightmare… sadly mine was a nightmare.
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It was not too bad!
I had drunk some beer on the train, so when I had arrived to home, I was tipsy.
My mother was always asking me that who is my girlfriend, when will I show her to her, who is the misterious person I always went to a trip.
I asked her whether she really wanted to know and she said, yes, of course.
I said "with my boy friend".
She said, OK, then I asked her as a confirmation that she really understood this?
She said yes again, and asked some questions about HIM.
She didn't said any disineritage or anything, just that I should try to keep open the 'other door', and it is strange, but she loves me all the same.So it was quite good, but going home at the weekend was a bit funny, I felt some discomfort.
My dad is dead for 3 years.
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It was not too bad!
I had drunk some beer on the train, so when I had arrived to home, I was tipsy.
My mother was always asking me that who is my girlfriend, when will I show her to her, who is the misterious person I always went to a trip.
I asked her whether she really wanted to know and she said, yes, of course.
I said "with my boy friend".
She said, OK, then I asked her as a confirmation that she really understood this?
She said yes again, and asked some questions about HIM.
She didn't said any disineritage or anything, just that I should try to keep open the 'other door', and it is strange, but she loves me all the same.So it was quite good, but going home at the weekend was a bit funny, I felt some discomfort.
My dad is dead for 3 years.
Sorry to hear that.
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It was fine. I knew that my mother would be disappointed, but she took it very well. She was really a very old fashioned lady but she loved me so much. I really miss her
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Not the worst nightmare, my mom still loves me, however, she is still in denial after years. She thinks it's some kind of fashion and that it can be changed and she still talks from time to time about how cool it would be if I had a girlfriend and kids… I tried to educate her about gay people and life as a gay male on multiple fronts, but nothing seems to stick... as she is too narrow minded in this area.
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not so much anger or shock , just confusion
Hi Mum , dad , this is my boyfriend dane
then they found out that dane once long ago used to be daniella
then they were really confused
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In all honesty? I was forced to "rebuke" it because I couldn't support myself yet. Still can't, not until I finish college anyway.
It was so hard, there was so much yelling, cursing, and they threatened to throw me out on the streets in a dress and make-up. Got whipped with the metal buckle of a belt, too.
So yeah, I don't think I'll ever come out to my family again. My friends are mixed, though, which is short of a relief.
I'm not the best for coming out advice, clearly. Haha
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In general my family was pretty supportive. As an example:
Me: You know I'm gay, right?
Brother: Yeah, I figured.
Me: Thought so. Mom wanted me to tell you.
Brother: She's weird that way.
Me: Yup.
Brother: So can I get a ride to work? -
I just chuckled at that. So nice
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i came out to my closest friend when i'm 20, i was quite surprised that he knew it all the time.
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Mine went so well with my parents that it was a tear jerker for me, I didn't expect it to go like that at all.
What got me was when my father said "Why didn't you tell me!" in a really annoyed voice, and "I would have helped you", kinda like I'm an idiot -ROFL, but that's my Dad -haha.Because I waited so long to come out, I lost so much time that I could have been closer to my parents. That's what teared me up too, that regret.
All those years thinking they wouldn't love me as much if they knew.I don't have a close family. Half of them are out of the country, and a lot of the others (Mom's side) aren't the best people.
Came out to the only sane one on my Mom's side, my cousin, and that went amazingly well too. Now we're good friends and talk a few times a week (we're on opposite coasts in the US). -
