Any tips on how to bottom?
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It really hurts when i try it.. was wondering if u guys had any tips
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If it hurts you have to start it with some preliminaries. Try rimming first, use a lot of lube… insert fingers before cock... one finger... two, three... Remind your partner to start slowly. If it's better for you, you should try sitting/riding his cock as a first position, as it gives the bottom more control. And practice. Practice on your own... finger yourself. Use dildos.
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Good advice here already. With a little teasing by oraling and fingering, with lots of lube, may a drink, a shot or two of stiff rum and coke kind of thing to relax a bit. Something of that sort if it helps you relax (not turn comatose). Does not matter, because a determined finger is sure to slip in. There will be a feeling not likely esp. painful from the slicked single digit playfully stroking the entrance, guided by a man you are eager to find a way for you to experience how his dick feels inside you, how it moves, and all about it. He will have a definite goal in mind as the world shifts around you. I mean the top really wants you to dig it when he finally does it. The feeling, as I started to suggest, may turn out to be neither painful nor pleasurable when it is new and– like wine, olives, or mushrooms-- not yet something you are familiar enough with to find out whether you like it. An easily acquired taste once that finger proves entrance is possible.
Or this whole attempt to describe medically or pornographically what is as certain as fingerprints to be unique to everyone. Would be interested to hear agreements and disagreements because, as you can all tell, I have no idea what I'm actually talking about. Like so much else of what I think I know or remember, it may turn out all to be fantasy.
Just because it is so anodyne, it might be worth daring to spell out that there Are reliable sources out there on the Indra's Internet. Naw, my little joke. But right here in River City, there are torrents on sexual health books (search print department on title-only HEALTH. There's the Ins and Outs of Gay Sex, How to Bottom Like a Porn Star, the Anal Sex Positions Guide.... Not saying I recommend any of these, or have even read them, but apart from any lab work, studying a text or two can be useful. You could, um... "bone up" on them. Doesn't hurt or cause pain to be aware of health issues and their standard, um, deviations. (See what I did there?).
Which all sounds like something left over from a Colonial era almanac of pieties, but still worth saying, right? So another defensible suggestion is to watch a selection of this site's multiple educational videos (aka pr0n) to see how professionals do it. These are men, often well hung or even exceptionally well hung, who get paid to fuck on camera because they make it look good, perhaps they even actually Are good at what they do.
So when we see a pro submitting to another pro for the bottom's first time or even their first pairing, there can be a lot of eating and slurping and fingering and dildo-ing and general lubing and prep that may help you learn something, since at the very least most of the staff and crew
are not new to the process. And no one wants a bad rep for abusing a bottom if they expect to work again. And yet, some carriers of the biggest stick are also the most soft-spoken in terms of tender caring and regard as he works the potential bottom into a frenzy of desire as foreplay to make the "jug, jug, jug" as easy and rewarding as possible. It does help if you are in the mood as much as yr partner. Anyway, I like all that pre-insertion preparation.That IS being done for a check, so what you see may not be a true record of what happened, but there are enough clips out there for you to get a sense of how they generally want you to think of what and how they do what they are best known for. Also, there are amateur videos where people just seem to be getting it on, not always being aware a record of their process is being made by some hidden camera. And, you might want to watch some of the various strait guy goes gay for pay because he needs the money, thinks it will be a laugh, or even his wife/girlfriend wants to watch.
The general process in all those cases, in much of nifty.org fiction as well as storybooks at yr local adult video store, there is a frequently expressed suggestion from one character to another that they push back as if trying to drive something out. Use that experience so that when you relax, you can pull something in.
Just rattling on. Good luck to you. Please report on yr progress as often as there are developments. Since everything may all pretty much happen at once (esp. if you can get up the nerve to obtain a small, preliminary dildo and trying pushing against that once you and yr new friend are all greased up and ready to experiment) that may only mean I'd love to know how you feel on the other side of this and you are no longer a virgin.
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As above, but I want to share what personally helps me.
I am a natural bottom, but my partner is really well hung. The first time we had sex, it hurt a LOT. I felt like I was getting split in two! I tried preparing myself for it, but(t) sex hurt for the longest while. We found one time he wanted to try rimming, and it felt other worldly. His cock felt great too! But he has to be in a mood for rimming, unfortunately. We found a method to fingering that we both enjoyed though. He'd slowly work my hole up to it (don't just lube a finger and shove it in). Really enjoyable with a mouth full of cock. -
Not much to add, I've seen good advices.
I would recommend (alone or with company) a little play with latex gloves and much lubricant. Cutting the nails is very important for not hurt the rectum walls or break the glove.
I read a piece of How to Bottom Like a Porn Star, it focuses a lot on e subject of pain and how to overcome it. If not the best reading but maybe I can help (the torrent is here). And keep trying it, you will enjoy alot
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Nice tips!
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Relax and a good glass of wine my help
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Lots of Lube, take it slow, be aroused, want to do it and try with fingering first. Be patient and gentle, and relax.