I'm in love with a friend! What do I do?
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Good evening, people!
I'm posting for the first time here.
I'm desperate!
For a few years now, I fell in love with a close friend that I met in College, and I can't continue to keep this feeling bottled inside me!
Unfortunately there aren't any chances for us to have romantic relations.
He is an amazing guy, and we get along very well. But i can't stop thinking about him! He is very devoted to church duties, and he plans to become a priest in the near future!
I can't help it! He is so nice, impetuous, kind, funny, pure hearted. And beautiful - i couldn't let that out!
He is like an angel that charmed me!
I'm doomed! Love made me miserable!
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There really is nothing you can do but move on. Love hurts. I think most of us have been through that time where we were in love with someone we can't have.
The sooner you accept it and move on the better it is for both of you. You don't want to ruin your friendship if he really is such a good friend.
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Brush up on The Smiths back catalogue while crasturbating about your friend.
It's how I got through my early teens :cheers:
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Throw us some bones here (or whatever)…
you don't tell anything about how he feels or if he feels anything at all or if he's into boys or girls.
Okay, I guess he's going to become a priest he might be gay
but anyway if you want some advice tell us a little more. -
Unfortunately there aren't any chances for us to have romantic relations.
Why do you feel there aren't any chances for a romantic relation?
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Since you ask, I'll tell more.
He's younger than me (but that is not the problem). Although he may appear to be homosexual, I'm not sure he really is. He dated a girl from my class, that is also my friend, for a few months. He gets piss off when people presume he's gay just because off his manners. I admit when I first met him, I though he could be gay myself. We became good friends from the beginning, and I've grown very fond of him. He is a very special guy, and very special to me, as I believe I am to him.
Unexpectedly, this intense feeling started to flourish inside me. I was realising that I was liking him more than I should. He was becoming a quite attractive man. It was desire! I was so attracted to him… His face, his lips, his eyes, his hair, ... Everything about him fascinates me, in addition to the qualities that I mentioned before.
How hard still is to be at his side and not let anyone notice or suspect that I feel this way about him. He is too cute.
I can't resist to lay my eyes on his body, when he walks. Sometimes I can't even look directly in his eyes because I melt inside.
All that seems wrong, and I feel so guilty.I may fantasise about he being interested in be with me, that he but that is impossible. College is now over, and he is looking for a purpose that is incompatible with the love I feel for him.
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First there is nothing to be guilty about.
Second more than likely your feelings are showing in the way you act around him.I have been in your place twice. I never told either person, but the way I acted around them gave off signals that other people picked up on.
One I was very protective of that no other guy would approach him lol.
Does he know your gay?
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No he doesn't. As no one else.
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One I was very protective of that no other guy would approach him lol.
Man, tell me about it! lol
The jealousy crisis still gets me from time to time! Specially in his case, because he is so extrovert, and a very vibrant guy. This inevitably makes the other guys stare at him, as he complained to us twice. lol
He has such a endearing innocence, i guess he doesn't realise that, along with his beautiful figure, his moves gives him some sex appeal.
But the worst time was when he started to date this friend I told about. That devasteted me at the time! But I had to let it go because she is also one of my best friends.
