Sex with married men
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If you believe there are differing views about what constitutes cheating, make sure you and the person with which you enter into a relationship share the same defintion.
This is why a lot of relationships fail. The definition of cheating is not a literal term. Where one person may see kissing someone (even just a quick peck) as a form of cheating, someone else may not. That's the down side to opinions. That should be the case with any relationship as part of the discovery stage of the relationship.
Enough of that though…. What about sex with me? I'm still technically legally married, but haven't actually been with my still legal husband since September 11, 2007. Would that make sex with me constitute sex with a married man?
It seems to me that you are just looking for exceptions almost as if that justifies the act, no matter what you wish to call it. A rose by any other name is still a rose.
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Now that gay marriage is becoming more common, do people's answers to this question change if the married man is married to another man rather than a woman?
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It seems to me that you are just looking for exceptions almost as if that justifies the act, no matter what you wish to call it. A rose by any other name is still a rose.
Not at all… What I have been wondering for a while now and am going to finally outright ask is why do you seem to feel the need to be so argumentative with everyone? I was only pointing out that "cheating" is a matter of opinion. Some relationships will accept cheating as any type of contact with other people such as a simple kiss, whereas other couples (like my last ex and I) don't consider it to be cheating if you go out and shag some random fling on the side as long as you do not withhold that from the other. All I'm saying is that "cheating" is not a cut and dry term. It's a matter of opinion.
Now that gay marriage is becoming more common, do people's answers to this question change if the married man is married to another man rather than a woman?
With the change in gay marriage laws, I think it does have some impact, at least for me. Part of the thrill of the married man experience is knowing that you're converting a "straight" man over to the dark side of gay sex. If you they're married to another guy, while it can still be fun and all, there's that extra little something about it that's just not the same. At least, that's the way it is for me anyway.
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I still say that pointing to the fact the definition is mutable, doesn't change the action. If one kills someone by negligence and they are acquitted and someone else kills someone in a crime of passion and they are convicted. They have both committed the act of murder, even if the courts and people say you were not to blame. Fuzzy definition or not, I do not believe in getting married and then having flings, consensual or not. Also, no one is being argumentative, the purpose of the forums is to debate things. At least that is how I feel.
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This one's a tough one. I would never jeopardize my relationship with any of my friends, but if he's a 10/10, I'd go straight for it. (pun not intended)
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depends on the relationship you have with them
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I still say that pointing to the fact the definition is mutable, doesn't change the action. If one kills someone by negligence and they are acquitted and someone else kills someone in a crime of passion and they are convicted. They have both committed the act of murder, even if the courts and people say you were not to blame. Fuzzy definition or not, I do not believe in getting married and then having flings, consensual or not. Also, no one is being argumentative, the purpose of the forums is to debate things. At least that is how I feel.
You are absolutely right, and honestly there is no right or wrong answer here, I just wanted to get others opinions on the matter. In actuality what I decide to do won't be based off anything that I have read or seen on here. At this point I haven't done it, but if I chose to, it will be because that's what I want to do, and don't feel that my character will be questionable, because truthfully nobody knows my situation but me. But thank you all for your responses and I will keep you posted.
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Still have no clue how to identify those curious married men:S
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Still have no clue how to identify those curious married men:S
I wish I could too. They are much elusive than the standard queen. I think that's why I like them.
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I will honestly say I didnt think i'd get so many positive responses but thanks you guys. My problem is that I am very close to the wife, and even walked her down the isle for their wedding, but in the same instance, I know he cheats on her and so does she. I don't want anything more from him than to just hook up like he asked then on my way to continue on with the friendship. Now what am I gonna do if he gets hooked? But I guess i'll see when that comes around.
If they both cheat on each other, then I guess you can feel less guilty about the whole situation. As a fantasy - servicing a married man is hot in theory but I would feel like an arsehole if I got found out about the whole thing and it caused trouble.
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In first case no, but it depends on how I like him and if he was married I really don't know what to do but because of respect I would say no.
Sleeping with a married straight man and sleeping with a married gay man are the same as far as cheating is concerned. To say that one is less of an offense is to devalue their marriage.
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Now that gay marriage is becoming more common, do people's answers to this question change if the married man is married to another man rather than a woman?
Why would it change? It doesn't matter to whom the person is married too.
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Having sex with married men really excites me. However, they have to be fit, unfortunately very often they are not. I have never met their wives though.
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Personally I don't think I can, it would feel like I am somehow hurting their marriage to me. I admit that it does sound very exciting, the lure of forbidden fruit and all.
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I had a relationship with a married man, but i just saw his wife in pictures. Anyway it wasn't long term one.
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Would you have sex with a married man, if you knew his wife. My life is sooooo extra sometimes. LOL!! Okay lets talk.
you will need to talk to HER first!
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If you really know the wife you shouldn't do it.
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I am a married man, I've had some fun with a guy or two before… :blind:
i should go to where you are…
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I am a married man, I've had some fun with a guy or two before… :blind:
i should go to where you are…
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havent had an experience of this one yet. when i do, ill let you know.
but when i get the chance, i certainly would. why? because married men dont want to be scandalized so he will be very careful… so will you.
thinking that you are close to the wife and you know that both of them are cheating, well then less guilt i would feel.
just dont let ur feelings grow... having occassion sex would be great but dont expect something when the husband have sex with you.
i envy you!
wish a married man will come my way.
