Is it ok to cheat?
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I'm top and my boyfriend is bottom. We are together for 4 years now and since last december he won't let me fuck him. He stopped smoking and gained a lot of weight and he is also taking madication for high blood pressure. He says he has no libido due to the medication. I really like him, but I love to fuck ass. Do you guys think is it ok for me to fuck someone else just to release myself? Thanks!
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I'm against all cheating.
HOWEVER, if you and your boyfriend agree on an open relationship, then it wouldn't be cheating. Pressuring him to agree is also bad.
Personally, I believe in monogamy, but to each their own.
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I have already started the talking but he always tries to avoid the subject. But I'll talk to him about the problem, no matter what.
Sorry for my poor english, I'm from Brazil.
Thank you!
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I'm top and my boyfriend is bottom. We are together for 4 years now and since last december he won't let me fuck him. He stopped smoking and gained a lot of weight and he is also taking madication for high blood pressure. He says he has no libido due to the medication. I really like him, but I love to fuck ass. Do you guys think is it ok for me to fuck someone else just to release myself? Thanks!
If you love him really then you should stand at your boyfriend's side.
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I think it's hipocrisy to say that a relationship can endure without sex. I believe sex is one of the pilars of a healthy relationship (being the sex in or out of the relationship). So… you have all the right to get your deal of sex, being it inside or outside your relationship. HOWEVER, it is, yes, a matter of foudness and carying to be honest with your partner. The result may be that he will try to improve the sexual lives of both of you, or that you will agree on a open relationship. In the worst scenario you will agree to end the relationship...
So, in a nutshell: you have the right to be sexually active and happy, but your partner also has the right of demanding your full honesty and openness about this decision. -
I think it's hipocrisy to say that a relationship can endure without sex. I believe sex is one of the pilars of a healthy relationship (being the sex in or out of the relationship). So… you have all the right to get your deal of sex, being it inside or outside your relationship. HOWEVER, it is, yes, a matter of foudness and carying to be honest with your partner. The result may be that he will try to improve the sexual lives of both of you, or that you will agree on a open relationship. In the worst scenario you will agree to end the relationship...
So, in a nutshell: you have the right to be sexually active and happy, but your partner also has the right of demanding your full honesty and openness about this decision.Υes, sex is an issue. But a relationship that is based on mutual emotions and has endured for a good amount of time, is not based exclusively on that.
But i do believe that you have a major point in stating that he should be honest to his lover and if sex is that important to him, he should discuss it with his lover just in case they end up on a solution that benefit both of them. -
Another Option might be to talk to him and get him to talk to his doctor. Perhaps he is having a negative reaction to the blood pressure meds and that is causing his lack of libido. There might be an alternative to the medication he can take that won't have the same side effect…. Then your both happy again.
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Thank you guys, I'll have a good conversation with him.
