Sex on the first date??

rickydrexel

I've been going on a lot of dates lately, trying to find Mr. Right, and a lot of the guys have been seriously fucking HOT!!! To me, first impressions are everything, and although I love sex, and am a huge freak, I don't want to come off as a total whore. So I pose 2 questions today.

1. Is talking about sex on the first date inappropriate
2. How long do you wait before having sex when you're looking for a steady mate/ dating? $:-\$

Thanks in advance for your input.

SPT

this is actually a tricky thing
1 Talking about sex is never inappropriate.. expecially for guys, it's better to know if you actually have the same tastes in Bed
2 think of it this way.. you find a really hot guy that you like and he likes you back and you end up dating 1 month before sex and in Bed it turns out that he bores you to death… now with some people you can work this through you teach them new things you talk and try to make it fun for both... but some will always be boring no matter what so what do you do then... break it off or have a sexless/boring sex relationship...

hope it helps gl

rickydrexel

@SPT:

this is actually a tricky thing
1 Talking about sex is never inappropriate.. expecially for guys, it's better to know if you actually have the same tastes in Bed
2 think of it this way.. you find a really hot guy that you like and he likes you back and you end up dating 1 month before sex and in Bed it turns out that he bores you to death… now with some people you can work this through you teach them new things you talk and try to make it fun for both... but some will always be boring no matter what so what do you do then... break it off or have a sexless/boring sex relationship...

hope it helps gl

Thanks for your input. This is very true, but I also don't want anyone to think that i'm just all about sex either, or that i'm just looking for a quick thing despite what I have told them.

ipertatos

Talking about sex is necessary!
If you feel like having sex, have! Otherwise do not.

Minerboh80

There must be a great chemistry for that to happen.

ipertatos

Hotness and horniness are more important I think.

Minerboh80

@ipertatos:

Hotness and horniness are more important I think.

Hotness and horniness are two vital ingridients for a mutual chemistry!

thekingdom

1. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about sex
2. This is my general rule: if the date went well and I want to see the guy again, I avoid sex on the first date. I guess it's just my way of seeing whether he's serious or just in it for the sex. If, on the other hand, the date was just meh and I don't see the relationship going anywhere, I might have sex on the first date. Because if I'm not going to see him again I might as well have some fun.

cannonmc

I thought that's what first "dates" (meetings) were for…sex $:-\$

If that goes OK, maybe think about a second date.

Sorry, I always was a tart..

tigerrawr

@rickydrexel:

I've been going on a lot of dates lately, trying to find Mr. Right, and a lot of the guys have been seriously fucking HOT!!! To me, first impressions are everything, and although I love sex, and am a huge freak, I don't want to come off as a total whore. So I pose 2 questions today.

1. Is talking about sex on the first date inappropriate
2. How long do you wait before having sex when you're looking for a steady mate/ dating? $:-\$

Thanks in advance for your input.

Sex on the first date is awesome! There is so much going on at the same night, a wide range of emotions.

If the chemistry is great and you had a great date, and it ends up in great sex, it just becomes this mesmerizing day that stick to you. I feel like after sex you have a completely different relation, you just open yourself up, you are finally free youknow, and it's so much easier to build upon that instead of waiting anxiously for it…. the more you wait the more thoughts you have about how it can be, it's much better to just do it and be spontaneously surprised.

harrisbren

@ipertatos:

Hotness and horniness are more important I think.

so true!
for me,
1. It is necessary.
2. You are both consenting adults.

rickydrexel

@thekingdom:

1. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about sex
2. This is my general rule: if the date went well and I want to see the guy again, I avoid sex on the first date. I guess it's just my way of seeing whether he's serious or just in it for the sex. If, on the other hand, the date was just meh and I don't see the relationship going anywhere, I might have sex on the first date. Because if I'm not going to see him again I might as well have some fun.

Good points. Very good points.

ipertatos

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I met my boyfriend at a threesome, over two years ago!!

Flinxxx

This guy and I picked each other up on the sidewalk after the bar had closed for a one night stand… and it lasted for 18 years. We talked on the walk back to his place, and then for another two hours before we took our clothes off. The sex is going to happen at some point and I do not think it matters when. If the relationship lasts depends on if the sex is good enough and if you have things to talk about before, after and even during the sex. In my limited experience, it is when the talking stops that the relationship ends (or does even start).

hean

1. I will try not to bring the sex topic up. And if he cant help it, I will try to make the conversation non-sexually.

2. DEFINITELY NO. I want our future relationship to be built upon feelings, but not sex. How can I marry him, create a family with him if all he wants from me is sex? …. And frankly, once u easily give urself out, he will take u for granted

ulises3177

@hean:

1. I will try not to bring the sex topic up. And if he cant help it, I will try to make the conversation non-sexually.

2. DEFINITELY NO. I want our future relationship to be built upon feelings, but not sex. How can I marry him, create a family with him if all he wants from me is sex? …. And frankly, once u easily give urself out, he will take u for granted

I'm confused. I thought sex it was compatible with feelings :hug2:.

rickydrexel

@ulises3177:

@hean:

1. I will try not to bring the sex topic up. And if he cant help it, I will try to make the conversation non-sexually.

2. DEFINITELY NO. I want our future relationship to be built upon feelings, but not sex. How can I marry him, create a family with him if all he wants from me is sex? …. And frankly, once u easily give urself out, he will take u for granted

I'm confused. I thought sex it was compatible with feelings :hug2:.

LOL!! You so funny!!

hean

@ulises3177:

@hean:

1. I will try not to bring the sex topic up. And if he cant help it, I will try to make the conversation non-sexually.

2. DEFINITELY NO. I want our future relationship to be built upon feelings, but not sex. How can I marry him, create a family with him if all he wants from me is sex? …. And frankly, once u easily give urself out, he will take u for granted

I'm confused. I thought sex it was compatible with feelings :hug2:.

I want us to be connected both physically and mentally

harrisbren

Whatever floats your boat. I guess intimacy also adds some spice.

ulises3177

@hean:

@ulises3177:

@hean:

1. I will try not to bring the sex topic up. And if he cant help it, I will try to make the conversation non-sexually.

2. DEFINITELY NO. I want our future relationship to be built upon feelings, but not sex. How can I marry him, create a family with him if all he wants from me is sex? …. And frankly, once u easily give urself out, he will take u for granted

I'm confused. I thought sex it was compatible with feelings :hug2:.

I want us to be connected both physically and mentally

And what's the reason that makes you think you can't be connected in flesh & mind with your sex partner at the first date? Your personal experience? If this the reason, I respect you, but mine, it's totally opposed of yours.