FYI, i went to thisvid.com, made an account, and uploaded heaps of files on private, heaps of people added me, with their own content, and the ones i did want, accept my request, definitely the way to go.
that is, more or less, how this site works too- except you do not upload the actual media. you upload a torrent and leave the media on your computer. then you download whatever torrents you want, and others download your torrents if they want.